Husband needs might lose wife.
*my second attempt at posting so sorry if this repeats a thread
I am a HUSBAND... and I love my wife...
I am a good leaning toward very good almost even a great person... I adore my family
I worship (mostly) my wife
I was/am an idiot
I am regretful and know what I did wrong
I have a strong opinion that what I did was innocent... at the beginning of our relationship and truly the act itself warrants no unease or unrest (although maybe it would that is why I am here)
I love my wife
I did re-act when 'confronted'... I denied and lied... I kept most of the lie up for a greater amount of time...
I have NEVER this respected my family nor my marriage
BUT... my wife is morte then mad...
She says I have disrespected her/us/marriage/etc
She says I am a liar,cheat
She says I have lied for the entire relationship
She says I may not be worth fighting for
I am divorced... while single and divorced I became a user of the internet... I met people through Forums etc... we chatted... some were (I hope:o )female... and some became friends... and flirty friends... it was SAFE anonyomous and a nice way to re-accliamate myself (after nearly 7 years) to being 'social'... oh and it was also a relief to myself, uhm... well... in a very graphic flirty way...
I met my wife online
We flirted
We met
I fell in Love... she did as well...
We decided to get together... BE together... BE a Family...
She has one child... I have one child (custdy pending)... and now... we have our children... we are a FAMILY... it IS based on LOVE
:confused:
When my wife and I met I was very flirty and very immature... I didn't end any relationships online in a normal sense... I just ignored the chats... mostly... occasionaly (and especially on nights when my now-wife-then-kind-of-girlfriend told me "we would never be more then friends") well I wouuld occasionally flirt back... it was less and less... and all within a few weeks (months according to her, and I will NOT argue) anyway...
I also met someone JUST before I met my now wife... we went out... we kissed... it was nothing... I met her again... I tried again... it WAS nothing
I met my wife and I loved her from the on set...
Anyway
My wife was some how informed of these overlaps...
I was confronted, I denied... and I yes... did lie... but, and it is a small but... but I assumed that saying it wasn't anything important would make it all go away...
Well...
We have had a rocky road... BUT we have ridden the road TOGETHER
And I am here... and something has triggered her anger... and I Do NO KNOW IF I WILL HAVE A WIFE FOR MUCH LONGER
I have suggested counseling... yet she believes that I will lie... :confused:
I am at my WITS end...
I LOVE MY WIFE
I LOVE MY FAMILY
Well, sorry this is so long, any thoughts?