We've been together for 1yr, throughout the year we've broken up ,and gotten back
Together. Why I don't know we stay in arguments about little things. Before we got together I worked at a restaurant were he use to come out and eat. After about a year
He finially asked for my number. About 3 weeks before that I had just got out a relationship. I rambled on about our brake up a lot. Finially I thought I was ready to focus on my new relationship, but had I already killed the flame talking about my ex? He say's he love me , how do you love someone and don't call them for a week?

You aren't really making much sense, could you repeat that while being more clear?

You cannot "kill the flame", you cannot "kill love". Love is undying and eternal
Either that, or I'm naïve :)
Simplify the question, and ask it to yourself
Like this, ask yourself "do i want to get back together with him?"

I will admit that talking about your ex can really hurt the current relationship, but it really can't hurt it that much. I don't know about the whole not calling for a week thing, though... that might just be a rude way of breaking up?