Ask Me Help Desk - Confused about my ex

So 13 months ago today I started dating this guy and immediately fell in love. He was my first love and I couldn't see myself without him. Then after about 6 months of dating we broke up because he was moving to another city. We still hung out every once and a while and were intimate but didn't get back together. He ended up getting in some trouble and went to jail and I did a lot for him when he was in there. I got his car out of impound which cost almost 300 dollars and I drove 45 minutes twice a week to visit him. He wrote me a ton of letters and said that it was a mistake we broke up and that he wanted to be with me again. We got back together while he was in jail and were completely happy when he got out. Everything was absolutely perfect. Then about a month later he called me and told me he cheated on me. He hooked up with a girl at some party. I broke up with him of course and told myself I would never give him another chance. We got in a ton of fights on myspace and he told me to stay out of his life. He ended up apologizing to me a little while after that and said he wanted to see me. I saw him and fell for his apology and everything he said and we ended up... well you know. We talked every once and a while since then and then what was supposed to be our one year anniversary we stayed the night together. My best friend kept telling me how stupid I was for even talking to him after what he did to me and that I needed to get over him and I'm just giving him exactly what he wants. So I started talking to another guy and not talking to my ex at all and I swear it's like he knew I was talking to someone else or something because he started being sweet to me a couple of weeks ago. He said that he went to the lake and he started thinking about me because one time we went camping together there. And now he wants to see me. He even invited me on another camping trip with all his friends. I really don't understand what he is trying to do. You don't exactly bring your ex girlfriend around to hang out with you and all your friends. He might possibly be moving back here and I'm wondering if he wants to get back together or if he just wants another fling again. I really can't tell!

WOW. That story is like a glimpse into my past. He just wants another fling. I think it would be best to stay away from him. You can find someone way better. I went threw the same thing. Me and my ex dated 9 times, he cheated on me every time and even got another girl pregnant. He swore he would never do it again, but he did. Once a cheater always a cheater. Sounds like this gu is using you as somewhat of a backup in case he can't find anyone else, that's why he keeps talking to you. Some men have the feeling that they cannot be alone. That could definitely be the feeling he is having. He doesn't want you for you, he wants you because you're a girl, and he knows that you will forgive him if he does something wrong, its basically a waste of time and you are just going to be hurt in the end. LET IT GO! You can find someone much better who wants to be with you because you have good qualities. He sounds like a con-artist. GET AWAY FROM THIS PERSON!! Its not worth it.

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I'm wondering if he wants to get back together or if he just wants another fling again. I really can't tell!

You may see the good in him and if so you should have your eyes examined. He is a jail bird loser, who will tell you anything to keep you in his corner. And of course he wants you as another fling as you provide him with everything he needs and wants at no cost to him whatsoever. You can do better but you must love yourself much more to keep you being weak for this loser predator. Sorry he is using you to the max, just as your friend has been telling you.

Hi charlottelc18,

After read your question I found that he is using you. After all this is a personal matter for you, But I would like to advise that in night around 11 pm or latter (after taking your dinner at least 8 PM) sit on a peace full place, take few deep breath remember your god and start analyzing your past with your boy friend, there will be some good memories as well bad. But you have to analyze all of your desired. It should be like this that you have to given answer to you self.
Try this, it will definitely work. If not then contact with me via mail.