I have been seeing this guy for 8months now. We spend almost all of outr time together. He already has a girlfriend of 8 years , they have a 6yr old daughter together. We do love each other . She has recently found out about me. We had to call it off , we were both crying . He is scared he will loose his little girl. However , We have seen each other since all of this took place. What should we do? We love each other , all I do cry at the thought of not being with him anymore. Please help.

Not to sound harsh - but if he really loved you why would he want you to be the other woman?

It sounds like the only person this guy is in love with is himself. He has mistreated you and his girlfriend of 8 years. You should thank your lucky stars that he left, move on and find someone who is AVAILABLE.

So, he's cheating on his girlfriend with you and he's cheating on you with his girlfriend.

What an immoral (in my opinion) dilemma you have gotten yourself into.

The man is taken... move on to a healthy relationship. Oh yeah, and make sure he uses a condom, no telling how many others he has cheated with, you wouldn't want an STD.

Take something into consideration... If he is cheating on his girlfriend with you then IF you get with this guy WHAT IN THE WORLD makes you think he's not going to turn around and do the same thing to you. How fair is it to his girlfriend that this is going on?? Imagine how she will feel IF/WHEN she finds out... Girls like you give the rest of us a bad rep. consider what you are doing! You're not just setting yourself up for disapointment but you're setting up a girl that didn't do anything to you as well and you're teaching this guy that he can be a cheater...

Cry your eyes out for once and for all and get over this cheating creep. I agree with the others - he cheated on his girlfriend with you - he is going to cheat again and again. You knew about the girlfriend and the little girl and still you went ahead. This is how you want to live your life? This is the lesson you would someday give to your own children?

Continued sadness over this worthless guy is so not worth the effort. Even if you think you cannot live without him, you can and you will. Get involved in other projects - develop some hobbies, do some volunteer work, take a class, get a second job, get with single friends - ANYTHING - that does not involve this guy. Regain your focus to the positive. In short, get your head out of the sand and get back to life. Good luck.

Once a player always a player

Get out of it! Get out, get out get OUT! He has a family, he has a DAUGHTER, and he can't have his cake and eat it too. Just drop him and find someone else who is not taken!