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  • Jul 24, 2007, 12:26 AM
    barbiechick123
    Dads GF
    Okay, I really like my dads girlfriend. A lot. Buut I really feel like every time I am with my dad she takes control on what is suppose to be his decision, OK as an example. MOVIES: so when I am with her and my dad I want to watch a rated R movie like knocked up and she says no because its rated R and than she like hiddenly convinces my dad to agree with her, than when she does something I hate that is very controlling I say your not my mom and she gets all mad and says I guess than I won't do anything for you, and another thing that REALLY bugs me is when she says Im her daughter to like her friends, and what am I suppose to say like oh well your not my mom [ I don't though] and I know I should be happy that my dads Gf really likes me and I like her but for some reason it still bugs me.

    Oh and another thing before I finish is that she goes to court with my dad against my mom and lies for my dad, which annoys me because she knows that my dad cheated on my mom and she knows my dad wwasnt good to my mom but she still says with him.

    What should I do so I stop feeling like this?

    Thanks in advance
  • Jul 24, 2007, 07:29 PM
    Skrypt
    You listed all the things you dislike, and nothing you like. You clearly stated in the first sentence you like her a lot. Sounds like you just want everything to go your way. If you want everything you'll end up with nothing. Consider if you're just over-reacting.

    As for what goes on in court, I can't really help you there. That kind of stuff happens, and I don't have experience with it.
  • Apr 16, 2008, 06:24 PM
    Lo02
    I have been there and back and then went back for tea.

    With my dad there was no winning.
    If I wanted something and she didn't want me to have it and my dad gave it to me she would fight with him about their "partnership" and how it's a 2 person thing.

    She is wretched.
    I know exactly how you feel and more.
    I have been dealing with it since I was 3 she has never left and I still hate her,
    Your lucky you like this chick your dads with but let her know what's up when your dads not around like if she says something like you think your forever yeah right.
  • Apr 16, 2008, 07:24 PM
    N0help4u
    It sounds like she is trying too hard to be the mother figure she would like to be for you.
    If you say you want to watch an R rated movie what some parents do is watch it first and then decide if they feel it is appropriate. Maybe she feels like she would be uncomfortable with a really sexual scene. I know when I was growing up I would have felt uncomfortable watching some things with my parents. Now kids watch these things with the parents in the room and some parents can feel uncomfortable.

    You seem old enough that the court should be interested in what you have to say. You should be able to present the facts as your side of the story so that their lies are not taken as seriously.

    In public she is going to present you as her daughter because she wants to feel that bond with you. I know it can rub kids the wrong way but it seems like everybody's gf's and bf's do that any more. I think it is better to not even bring it up because you have enough issues with things now it would only add to the problems.
  • Apr 16, 2008, 10:57 PM
    O_Troubles
    Are you jelious of her taking your dad away from you?

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