My boyfriend and I love each other so much, we've been dating a little over a year and he has this feeling in his heart that it isn't the right time for us to be dating. We broke up once for two weeks and the pain he had went away and we recently starting dating again but the feeling came back. We don't want to break up and we want this to work but we want the feeling to go away. When he sees me the pain isn't as bad as it is when we are apart but what does that mean? We love each other and don't want to result in breaking up.. we want this to last but what can we do to get rid of the feeling? We talk about it, try to figure it out, and we've given it time.. what else can we do?

It sounds as if he is not ready to be in such a serious relationship. Maybe his feelings for you are frighteningly strong but at this stage he still wants to experience life.

I know it sounds hard, but a solution could be to have an open realationship for a while (rather than breaking up all together). See how this feels for both of you. Remember if it feels wrong for you don't do it, but if you love him and you think time is all he needs then give it to him.

I don't know your boyfriend, but what you are describing sounds similar to situations that many of my friends have been in- we call these boyfriends "itchy d-i-c-k-ies". That is because although they know they have found a fantastic girl like you, they still want to whet their appitite elsewhere. They string you on because they know that you are a catch and any other man would keep you to themselves in an instant but the thing is the "itchy d-i-c-k-y" boyfriend just wants that little bit more freedom (to have sex with other women).

Each time you break up, does he go out with other women?

The best thing you could do would be to loose him, give him space, give him time. If he comes after you with a passion he is yours. If he does not he never was.

He knows you're a good catch, so believe me there will be another better man out there who acknowledges just how good you are and he will not have these so called "pains", with your boy it sounds like its more a "pain in his penis".