I need to know how to stop it doing so on my laptop

Any ideas

Tools then options and unselect the sign me in on windows start up.

Tools from where cause I tried from the msn login page but couldn't find the don't log me in thing, I thought I had to delete the memory of my hotmail addy

Im kind of wondering now if you mean msn messenger or not?

If you just mean mail then you need to go to the log in page and deselect the option remember my password.

Windows messenger

Re read post three its pretty obvious if you actually look hard enough you will see, when you log in you get your list of contacts yes... at the top of the window you have a few options being file, contacts, actions, tools and help click the tools option and then options and select general and the options you require are there. Its really not hard just slow down and read all the stuff in options.

No general sorry butifound out how to do it by deleting my net passport from the memory,the long way

Even with windows messenger you can tell it to not start up on starting your operating system, tools, options and preferences there all pretty much the same.