I have being married for 11 yrs. And going with a married man for 9 yrs. What do I do? He tells me he love me but, yet keeps important information from me that I needs to know. He puts other people in our relationship, and that's has caused a problem for us. I know that is not right to be with him but I really do love him. I am ready to get out. He can't be honest with me and I should not expect no more, but I am tied of his lies. Please help! I cry everyday. I want to let go but my heart say another. What do I do?
Sign,
Looking for peace in the heart

Let me see if I have this right. You have been cheating on your husband most of your marriage and you are upset because your lover is lying to you?

Do your husband a favor and divorce him. If you want peace in your heart, you have got to get the chaos and deception out of your life.

Hey, I got an idea!!

Why don't you ask your husband what you should do? Or you could ask your lovers wife what you should do.

Find some one better to cheat with. This one is worn out.

Hello.

Cheating never works because the person your with is already living a lie and now so are you. From the start of the relationship honesty is out the window and all rules are gone.

If your not happy with your husband divorce him. Learn who you are now because your not the same Lady that married your husband years ago. With time we all change and living years worth of lies has to have changed your view on life and yourself. Once you get to know who you are then you can find out what you want in life to be happy.

If you have kids think about what your showing them by cheating. It's OK for Mom to do because she has a good reason but they can't lie or cheat.

Good Luck
Dennis777

Decisions, decisions... it must be hard.

You have been cheating on your husband for almost all of your marriage? That is terrible. How do you think your husband would feel? How do you think your lovers wife would feel? I mean, how would YOU feel if you were being cheated on in this way?

You need to stop sleeping with someone else's man. Its not cool, and does not make you look good. It is not fair to your husband by any means, nor is it fair to your lovers wife.

You complain because he lies to you. Your whole relationship with this person is based on a lie! What more do you expect? If you want to be with someone else, that is fine. But don't lie to your husband. He has every right to know what you are feeling in regards to your marriage. And if you want to be with someone else, he has every right to not want to be married to you anymore.

You're upset because he's not honest with you, and yet you continue dishonesty with your husband. Are you for real?

When you are unhappy with your illicit lover, do you take it out on your husband? Why not cheat on your cheater, WITH your husband? That'll show that liar you can just go home, and he has to get his rocks off somewhere else.

What if your husband had cheated on you these 9 years and why has it taken you 9 years to become frustrated?

He keeps important information from you that you need to know?

That's ridiculous... you're not his wife. Except the fact that you are his sexual toy and your decision should be made easier for you.

What you are doing is so wrong you have no right to be feeling confused you brough it on yourself. You should cut your ties to both of them and start fresh and this time be honest.

Whatever makes you happy... cause when its all said and done... you can only depend on yourself... meaning, yeah you might love him, but its not worth you not being happy. Do what you have to do, sometimes you got to just let go and let god, and if it was really meant to be he'll come back correct... this time of course

Seems to me, that you can't trust your own heart. Or your mind to make good decisions either for that matter. I feel that you don't really know who you are, unless your with a man... men. You need to find out who you are, what you truly want for yourself, and where your morals lie. I can't know of anyone that would welcome you, as you are, into their life... friendships, relationships, or other because you can't be trusted, and don't trust yourself either. You've basically wrecked two relationships with the help of the other home wrecker. The innocent ones just don't know that yet. Maybe your crying is for the ones that your hurting, and not really so much for your selfish self.

Why did you say with your husband for so long if you are just going to cheat on him, you should just get divorced and break up with your lover.

I guess it has been said a few times... 9 years out of 11 years.. cheating on your husband. And lying to both families. Hard to be understanding, but I guess there are two sides to every tale.

I think it is time to take a long hard look at where you are and where you want to be..

82% of your married life has been based on lies and deceit.

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Originally Posted by xpressionu

I have being married for 11 yrs. and going with a married man for 9 yrs. What do I do? He tells me he love me but, yet keeps important information from me that I needs to know. He puts other people in our relationship, and that's has caused a problem for us. I know that is not right to be with him but I really do love him. I am ready to get out. He can't be honest with me and I should not expect no more, but I am tied of his lies. Please help! I cry everyday. I want to let go but my heart say another. What do I do?
Sign,
Looking for peace in the heart

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Women of your calibre should be taken out into the streets and flogged. Then your head should be shaved as a warning to all other decent women not to associate with you.

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Women of your calibre should be taken out into the streets and flogged. then your head should be shaved as a warning to all other decent women not to associate with you.

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Keep in mind this post is almost 8 months old. The original poster will probably never look at it again.

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Originally Posted by xpressionu

I have being married for 11 yrs. and going with a married man for 9 yrs. What do I do? He tells me he love me but, yet keeps important information from me that I needs to know. He puts other people in our relationship, and that's has caused a problem for us. I know that is not right to be with him but I really do love him. I am ready to get out. He can't be honest with me and I should not expect no more, but I am tied of his lies. Please help! I cry everyday. I want to let go but my heart say another. What do I do?
Sign,
Looking for peace in the heart

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It hurts... but let go! Nothing good will come out of you staying, your heart will ache, your mind will wonder, and it totally SUCKS... Start thinking about you and what YOU can do for yourself that will ease the pain and make you stronger...
Ps... When you find out... let me know!! Cause I totally know what you're going through.

I seriously know what u're going through... but I wasn't the married one. I don't think u're happy with your husband or your marriage so my suggestions to you would be divorce your husband because he deserves better and you deserve to be with the man u love. You get to live your life once so be happy while you're still breathing. Talk to your lover and fix things with him and do your family a favor and get a divorce before u get busted and be humilated. Its better that u revel the truth rather than the truth be told by someone else... Good LUCK