Help! I want to meet the coworker and my husbands has not made it happen. I have met other coworkers but not her. I have gotten; its not that I don't want you to meet her, she just doesn't go out after work but during the day its lunch and coffee. They email often, and he thinks nothing is wrong. Am I wrong??

If he's telling her that he relaxes by masterbating I wouldn't be so sure that it's just an emotional affair, it sounds like there is more there than just a platonic friendship. Don't just let it go. That type of thing is not acceptable and should not be happening. Personally, I would not want my husband spending so much time or talking so much to another woman. I would raise hell. Maybe he can keep some sort of a friendship going but he needs to back off a little and realize that that's not appropriate.

A few more details would be helpful before giving you a definitive answer. Having lunch and coffee with a coworker in and of itself is not a bad thing and neither is e-mailing. However, if it gets more personal than is appropriate for a married person in the workplace, then it could be a problem.

Depends on what they talk about and the definition of emotional affair.
If two people at work get along very well and love to talk to each other might simply mean they are very good friends, so again depends on what their conversations are about!
As S_cianci mentioned, a few more detals would be helpful.

Okay, I'll bite what is it your husband is doing that makes you upset. If its co workers interacting you're a nut. So give us the details please and be specific.

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