Ask Me Help Desk - Confused~Does she really want to be with me?

My g/f and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Everything was going good for us, until she left on a "vacation". For the first few weeks things were going well. But for the last week and a half of her vacation, she seemed to change. She has been stressing out a lot, and I have been trying to help her. She used to tell me everything. Now she seems to hold a lot in again, and I have to try to get her to open up again. She doesn't want to meet me, and has started drinking again. Now she has been spending a lot of time online talking to other people, these people were the same ones that tried to break she and I up. She tells me she blocked them when I confronted her, but she really didn't. She tells me everything is fine between us. She just seems to be stepping backwards again moving back to all the things that used to hurt her and used to hurt our relationship. What does this mean, What can I do? I still support her in every way she lets me...

You need to tell her how you feel. Period. Tell her everything that you just wrote. Tell her that you're serious and tired and need to know if this relationship is going anywhere. You can't be quiet forever. TALK TO HER! That's the only way you'll find out. Please try this.

Maybe just give her some space? Something is clearly making her feel conflicted she may need some time to pull her thoughts together and figure out what she wants to say to you. Do not push the issue with her and just back off a bit.

Ouch that happened to me I went out with this girl that I total loved and she loved me and then she went away and came bak all funny she was avoiding neva wanting to see me so then after 3 weeks of it I broke up with her and the next day she had a new B/F so I think that your G/F is cheating on you cause I know mine was

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Originally Posted by WillL300

My g/f and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Everything was going good for us, until she left on a "vacation". For the first few weeks things were going well. But for the last week and a half of her vacation, she seemed to change. She has been stressing out alot, and I have been trying to help her. She used to tell me everything. Now she seems to hold alot in again, and I have to try to get her to open up again. She doesn't want to meet me, and has started drinking again. Now she has been spending alot of time online talking to other people, these people were the same ones that tried to break she and I up. She tells me she blocked them when I confronted her, but she really didn't. She tells me everything is fine between us. She just seems to be stepping backwards again moving back to all the things that used to hurt her and used to hurt our relationship. What does this mean, What can I do? I still support her in every way she lets me...

Sounds to me someone else might be involved pick your crossroads now and be resdy for problems.

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Originally Posted by WillL300

My g/f and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Everything was going good for us, until she left on a "vacation". For the first few weeks things were going well. But for the last week and a half of her vacation, she seemed to change. She has been stressing out alot, and I have been trying to help her. She used to tell me everything. Now she seems to hold alot in again, and I have to try to get her to open up again. She doesn't want to meet me, and has started drinking again. Now she has been spending alot of time online talking to other people, these people were the same ones that tried to break she and I up. She tells me she blocked them when I confronted her, but she really didn't. She tells me everything is fine between us. She just seems to be stepping backwards again moving back to all the things that used to hurt her and used to hurt our relationship. What does this mean, What can I do? I still support her in every way she lets me...

Hi, ask her straight forward what's wrong with her, and tell her again that you feel she had changed towards you, if she says no, then whether she cheated on you during her vacation and feels guilty so she can not face you, or she had an accident e.g. raped or something and she can not share it with anyone. Or simply she does not love you anymore. You know her better than anyone else and can tell simply if she can do any of the above. or simply she is facing problem at work... etc. you did not mention in details what are the things which she is doing that is hurting your relationship.

Good luck

"Confused ~ Does she really want to be with me?"

When she is with you it is because she wants to be. And when she is not with you it is because she doesn't want to be. Now what you have to figure out is, is she with you more than she is not with you or is it the other way round? If so then she is trying to break it off and hasn't found the courage yet to tell you.