Problems with Daughter in Law
Problem is usual one - D in L obviously resents us - we see it as a) she is a controlling person - says doesn't argue with her family - obviously she is the control factor in her family. We are long term married with one son - he was married before - and they have a child of 20 months another on way - we were so happy they were together/married as our son is now 50. Her family background is different, Father left them all at a very young age, mother remarried, she didn't like him and then he died, her Mother not in good health, fortunately we are, and it seems as if everything about us that is positive is negative about her family - we don't compare them with us, live 220 miles away and make NO demands, just ask that we can see them every 6 - 8 weeks - always something becomes a problem. Our son has one failure, obviously he doesn't want another and nor do we - she is a bright and clever woman, and I was hoping we could be friends, she has a Mother, and I respect that but now things seem to go from bad to worse - to our face she is pleasant, but always there is something wrong with what we do - or say - or even ARE - we love our little grandaughter but can raise no emotion about new baby - feel we shall only become more distressed if we become attached. What are we doing wrong? What can we do right?