What's wrong with me? It's been months now and I can't get over him. He's such a jerk, he tells me he doesn't like talking to me, but he calls me! He says he calls cause he's bored and has no one else to talk to and cause he's stoned. Is this bullsh!t?:confused:

Hmmm I need to schedule an appointment with my psychologist

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by rockerchick_682

What's wrong with me? It's been months now and I can't get over him. He's such a jerk, he tells me he doesn't like talking to me, but he calls me! He says he calls cause he's bored and has no one else to talk to and cause he's stoned. Is this bullsh!t?:confused:

---

Yes, that is bull. There is nothing wrong with you. You need to lose this guy. He is using you. Bored and stoned? Tells you that he doesn't like talking to you? Please just lose him. You will get over him. It will just take time. You care, he doesn't, really. The more you hurt, the more you care. There may have been something that he valued between the two of you. But, I think that he has other things on his mind that are more important to him. Such as, getting stoned and not really caring about anything that may be of real importance in his life. He needs to find who he is first before he can join with another.

Thank you, that's what I needed to hear. Is he really calling because he's bored or is he hiding something, I guess only he knows. But like you said moving on who cares

You really can't second guess him, because I am sure that he is not thinking clearly. I would tell him, that if he really wants anything to do with you, then he needs to get himself straightened out first. If he won't, then have nothing to do with him. Don't get your hopes up. You are worth much more than to be involved with someone who abuses themselves. Water seeks it's own level. It is a basic law of physics. It is the same with people. Find someone who is like you. He will find people that are the same way that he is. It is a choice that you make. Do you want to be a part of the winner's circle or...

I just want to add that talking to a counseler or psychologist is a good idea as well. Not saying anything is wrong with you but it will help sort out your thoughts and get them out in the open plus they will be able to give you steps to take to move on and ways to cope with things.

It is time to move on and it is time to let this person go. No more excepting phone calls. No more contact.

Stop letting him live rent free in your head, as it is so pathetic that all he can do is get ripped and call you with his BS. Lose the contact with him, and move on to more positive things in your life, and let him learn to entertain himself. You give him far too much credit for being able to think.