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  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:37 PM
    Ashley-n-Josh
    Underage marriage prob.
    As you know if you read my other entry.. I'm 15 and me and my fieance wants to get married soon! I live in ga so... OK the prob. Is his mom said she loves me to death but she don't want to sign papers and the other option is to get pregnant but you no... I'm 15, so PLEASE, if you no of another option PLEASE tell me!!
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:45 PM
    Synnen
    How about the option of just waiting another couple of years?

    My goodness, you have plenty of time to get married. If you love each other, then it doesn't matter what a piece of paper says about it!
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:52 PM
    talaniman
    If your love is true it can wait for the right time. Pregnancy is a bad option and should not be considered. Signing papers is not an option either. You both must wait until you can support yourselves and each other. Use this time to prepare yourself with the skills it will take to be self sufficient, and independent, the keys to a good marriage. Marriage is a big step that you really must be ready for, as its more than playing house and being in love, and until you get all the facts and skills to go with it, wait till you do. If its forever, whats the hurry???
  • Jul 25, 2007, 09:21 AM
    LearningAsIGo
    Do NOT use a baby in order to sign a piece of paper.

    Why the rush? Are you trying to find a way to live with him and get out of your own house?
  • Jul 26, 2007, 06:44 AM
    sacha
    U are so young, please make sure that this is what you want and make sure that you know what you are getting yourself into
  • Jul 26, 2007, 06:51 AM
    Kattalover
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by sacha
    u are so young, please make sure that this is what u want and make sure that u know what u are getting urself into

    The only way for her to know what she's getting herself into is to wait ten years, get an education, find a job, and live on her own before starting a family.
  • Jul 26, 2007, 07:13 AM
    alkalineangel
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Kattalover
    The only way for her to know what she's getting herself into is to wait ten years, get an education, find a job, and live on her own before starting a family.

    Exactly! There are reasons those laws are in place. What is going to change between you two in the next few years if you aren't married? I mean, if you are serious enough to want to get married, then nothing should change. Marriage is just a paper, it doesn't change your relationship any. Also you can not legally rent or even own a home at this point. Where will the two of you live? You aren't finished with school and can't drive, if you drop out of school, you won't be able to get a license, how will you transport a baby to/from appointments and what not. Please don't say you will burden your parents, they are already raising a child. Having a baby to get married is wrong, esp. at your age. What's another few years. Finish school and go to college before starting a family. College is hard as it is, and it will take longer and be more difiicult if a child is involved.
  • Jul 26, 2007, 08:33 AM
    nicespringgirl
    Do you have financial foundation on getting married?
    Not mention mentally, emotionally, the simple financial foundation is not met, why would you decide to get married?
  • Jul 26, 2007, 09:16 AM
    NowWhat
    True love can stand the test of time. WAIT TO GET MARRIED!!
  • Jul 26, 2007, 03:51 PM
    always_hot
    Plain and simple just don't do it. Relationships get very complicted especially when you get older. You really need to finish growing into yourself and figuring out what your goals ion life are
  • Jul 26, 2007, 04:47 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Getting pregnant only gets you a baby, not married, your mother would still have to sign for you to be married even if you have a baby.

    So if mom will not sign, you just can't get married period...
  • Jul 27, 2007, 04:54 PM
    sacha
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Kattalover
    The only way for her to know what she's getting herself into is to wait ten years, get an education, find a job, and live on her own before starting a family.

    Yes yes. I actually lived on my own for a while first and then with my now husband before we tied the knot. I am young myself (22) but I have a job, I'm getting my BA next year, and my husband has a career. You are not even out of high school yet. As what kattalover said, you gota make sure you have your own situation set first before you go onto marriage, because marriage is a LOT of work.
  • Jul 27, 2007, 05:10 PM
    Canada_Sweety
    PLEASE don't use a baby as an excuse to get married... and please wait a while before you get married anyways. You're 15... you have your life ahead of you, you have time.
  • Aug 3, 2007, 08:05 AM
    lydiagr
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Ashley-n-Josh
    as u know if u read my other entry.. im 15 and me and my fieance wants to get married soon! i live in ga so... ok the prob. is his mom said she loves me to death but she dont wanna sign papers and the other option is to get pregnat but u no... im 15, so PLEASE, if u no of another option PLEASE tell me!!!

    I'm 17 and I'm getting married next year. You can wait. My boyfriend and I were together when we were 14 and 15 until now... so I know how you feel, because I felt that I was rady for marriage at that age also... but you guys can wait a couple years, and just look forward to growing together as a couple.

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