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  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:16 AM
    dad66
    Your thoughts on this event?
    Tuesday night, I went to invite my 15yo daughter to rent a video or two and found her asleep. I returned to the living room as I was very tired due to short night Monday. I was set up to sleep on the futon/bed in the living room as it is cooler there and fell asleep around 8:30pm.
    Some time after midnite I woke briefly to find my daughter sleeping on top of the blanket next to me covered with a sheet from her bed.
    I was exhausted and went back to sleep. I awoke around 230AM due to my phone and she had returned to her own bed.
    I am seeking opinions from others regarding this. Please be brutally honest. Thank you.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:23 AM
    bushg
    Your message is very hard to understand. 1. Your daughter is missing? Or 2. You are upset because she got in your bed?
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:25 AM
    J_9
    She was gone where? Out of the bed? Out of the house?
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:27 AM
    curlybenswife
    Makes no sense what you want an opinion on!!
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:27 AM
    dad66
    Ok just edited so that it may make more sense.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:28 AM
    curlybenswife
    Still makes no sense what's the problem??
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:28 AM
    J_9
    Okay, so what? She went to her own bed. Big deal.

    Instead of editing your post, please post a new answer.

    Don't have a clue as to why you would be upset.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:30 AM
    bushg
    She may have been sleep walking, or she may have had a bad dream. Why don't you ask her why she got in your bed? Then go from there.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:31 AM
    J_9
    Are you upset because she went to her bed or because you found her in yours? Maybe she was sleepwalking, maybe something scared her.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:32 AM
    dad66
    I am not upset but have been told by my GF/ partner that this was "sick"

    I am seeking an opinion on the fact she slept in bed. This was a first time event after going through a lengthy trouble time between us.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:33 AM
    curlybenswife
    Or Just as you did she found her room to hot and led next to you to cool off I still don't get what your deal is here at all you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:34 AM
    bushg
    Well without knowing what kind of troubles that you are having with the daughter it is hard for us to say. Your girlfriend needs to keep her opinions about your daughter to herself. Who is she to decide what is sick about your relationship with your daughter. I would not want my b.f to badmouth 1 of my kids if I had a b.f.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:37 AM
    J_9
    Personally, you should be more concerned about the girlfriend than the daughter.

    Your daughter probably just got hot in her room and came out to cool off.

    Without knowing what other problems you are having with your daughter we really can't answer the question any better than this.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:38 AM
    dad66
    I do not have a big issue with her presence, but am very hurt to have someone I love say that this is sick. My daughter had stated that she was hot and cooled down so returned to bed. I was curious if others felt this was so wrong as my GF.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:40 AM
    dad66
    The problems with my daughter are due to her lying and one time running away after I told her she could not go out due to her lying earlier that week and our relationship has been challenged since.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 09:41 AM
    J_9
    Guess it's time to find a new girlfriend. She should not be voicing her opinion on how you raise your child. That is your personal business.

    No, it's NOT sick. She was just trying to cool off. No big deal at all.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 10:02 AM
    bushg
    Dad j9 is right. I would be concerning myself with my daughter and her needs. Spend time with your daughter on developing a trusting relationship with her. Work with the daughters mother on doing what is best for your daughter. You have a right to be upset with the g.f.'s opinion and by the way this is my opinion from a mother of a 14 year old daughter and a woman's point of view. When I met my husband he had a son, I did not interfere in how he and his ex raised him. We have always gotten along on that matter, he was not my child. I always kept my nose out of it.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 10:07 AM
    dad66
    Thank you for stating what I knew. Everyday is a new day. Take care all.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 10:08 AM
    biggsie
    This is probably a troubling time for your daughter --- she needs your love -- and ex's love

    Where do you draw the line --- at her age she needs to sleep in a different room
  • Jul 19, 2007, 10:10 AM
    J_9
    Biggsie, I think you have it confused. Dad said he slept in the living room because his room was too hot. This is really very simple. The daughter's room was probably hot too, so she just came out to cool off.

    What's the big deal?

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