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  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:11 AM
    Jiser
    I am going NC
    Finally... 7 months later! She has my number if she ever wants to tell me she is dying, to visit her funeral. I deleted hers and msn so I can't actually remember what they are, O dear! Apart from that! SEE YA ex :)
  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:25 AM
    SAB123
    I deleted my ex phone # within the first couple of weeks. I can't remember the first three digits. But had her e-mail address at work saved. I thought I deleted it but didn't I wish I had. Because three weeks ago I contacted her. And I was 3 months in of NC. Everyone out their going through breakup DELETE everything. It will help you in the end.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:34 AM
    nicespringgirl
    NC=No contact
    LOL, I thought it means North Carolina at the beginning, I was like why all the guys like to go to that State?
    Yes, good, you guys are moving on!
    Deleting her contact info is def. a good idea, but your mind is your own. DOn't never think about her, just think she is dead, not exist any more.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:41 AM
    hettie
    Um thinking her dead a bit extreme lol my prob is I have a great memory so deleting doesn't work for me my ex phone no logged in my mind like a bloody annoying tune you can't get rid of I do contact him a fair bit so I tried my best to stop and was goig well until today had t arrange him to mind dogs whae I visit sick dad then he saa he met someone and thiought I wasn't talking t him because I hadn't been in tougch for ages despite in only just being a week since last contact. Ps he met this person at weekend after thinking I not talking to him think that means anythnig? I can spell honest just can't bloomin well type
  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:44 AM
    SAB123
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by nicespringgirl
    NC=No contact
    LOL, I thought it means North Carolina at the beginning, I was like why all the guys like to go to that State?
    Yes, good, you guys are moving on!
    Deleting her contact info is def. a good idea, but your mind is your own. DOn't never think about her, just think she is dead, not exist any more.

    Nicegirl you made made laugh. Since she broke up with me 5 months ago I don't do a lot of that. But when I came here I was what the h**L does LOL mean. I had to go on internet to find out what it meant... LOL
  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:47 AM
    Geoffersonairplane
    I always thought NC meant No Coffee.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 08:57 AM
    nicespringgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by SAB123
    nicegirl you made made laugh. Since she broke up with me 5 months ago I don't do alot of that. But when I came here I was what the h**L does LOL mean. I had to go on internet to find out what it meant...LOL

    U make me wonder now : what does "h**L" mean?

    I don't know if you do this in America, in Jap, people put up dead ppl's black and white photo along with some candles, you bow for the person, wish her never comes back. You could do that to your girlfriend, it's not that extreme, just a culture thing!:D It's really mean though, but she deserves it!( I read all posts, she is the one didn't want to give your ring back and got a boob job right?)
  • Jul 18, 2007, 09:21 AM
    samesame
    I did the same thing Last week Wed. Deleted everything. NC for 1 week so far. But what will you do if she contacts you?
  • Jul 18, 2007, 09:22 AM
    Geoffersonairplane
    I requested the engagement ring from my ex back and she gave it back. I was upset at the time but the way I looked at it was that it was a symbol of us getting married and she did not fulfill it. It was not a money thing, I still have it and would not sell it. I felt a bit guilty about that but then she did not hesitate to return it anyway so that showed how she felt about us.

    I don't think my ex really understood fully how much she hurt me, because she had never been hurt before, I in fact had been hurt before although not as bad as that time round.

    I still don't really understand how someone you love can hurt you like that but maybe I do...

    As hard as it sounds, it is really because they don't love you in the same way, because if they did, really, could they do that, I know I couldn't. Then again, I am a soft old fart...

    I suppose you can't blame someone who is naïve for not understanding the consequences of their actions, that takes maturity, experience and growing for that to happen.
    LOL... :rolleyes:
  • Jul 18, 2007, 02:25 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    I do and I don't know why I am thinking of this but nevertheless, its good that I'm thinking.:confused:

    Hey guys and gals...

    I have something to tell you...

    This is the longest period I have given to any website, that is I have devoted so much of my time and thought to...

    Bl**dy proud of it though!
  • Jul 18, 2007, 02:28 PM
    Tuscany
    I feel like I should congratulate you Jiser. That is a big big step in the healing process. It will make you feel better, and allow you the opportunity to move on. Much love and luck to you!
  • Jul 18, 2007, 02:29 PM
    samesame
    Hahaha... I love this site. Lot of good advice and also makes you realize you're not alone. Everyone goes through the same s**t, but their's always a better day ahead.

    Every time I feel like contacting my ex, I visit the site and read more stories, and then I soon lose the urge.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 02:48 PM
    nicespringgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
    I do and I don't know why I am thinking of this but nevertheless, its good that I'm thinking.:confused:

    Hey guys and gals...

    I have something to tell you...

    This is the longest period of time I have given to any website, that is I have devoted so much of my time and thought to...

    Bl**dy proud of it though!

    I hear u, that's almost the only thing I do(spend time on this website) besides working now:p
  • Jul 18, 2007, 02:55 PM
    Jiser
    Don't forget to enjoy a healthy lifestyle away from the site! Lol :]

    Take it slow though as withdrawl symptons come quick!
  • Jul 18, 2007, 03:11 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    I'm not addicted to this website, but the beauty that I see of the people that visit it. I don't mean that in a physical sense.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 03:12 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
    I'm not addicted to this website, but the beauty that I see of the people that visit it. I don't mean that in a physical sense.

    But then again, I suppose you could say I am addicted to the beauty that the website represents.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 04:21 PM
    Skell
    Would have been good if it happened a couple of months ago but better late then never hey Jiser. Well done. Now get on with living a happy and fulfilling life which I'm sure you already do.
  • Jul 18, 2007, 10:59 PM
    origins13
    I have visited this site for awhile. Remained NC for almost 4 months, ever since I changed my mobile number and my ex couldn't contact me. Two weeks ago, he started bombarding me through emails and calling my office, asking how come I'm hiding from him. I finally spoke to him. He told me he misses me and wants me back, though he's still with his new girlfriend as he speaks. (Am disappointed that he's full of bull shxt!)

    But am glad because I don't feel sad anymore. And recently, I find myself falling in love with my best friend and the feeling is amazing! Though haven't quite worked out things with him yet, am just glad that I'm able to move on.

    So good luck to you all out there!
  • Jul 19, 2007, 01:59 AM
    rol
    Good for you Jiser!
    'hope' is where you hang for a long time and then comes NC.
  • Jul 19, 2007, 03:25 AM
    Jiser
    Agree there, I tried to end our 'relationship' on a high with a festival with my best mate and her a few weeks ago, I saw her twice briefly since then. So we end on good memories I guess and her apologising for hurting me. Now lets hope she doesn't contact me! My heart wants her to but my brain doesn't. I know I need to move on now, to get healthy and enjoy my life without the confusion of her in my life.

    If she ever contacts me - which I hope she does one day, Ill see when it happens. Onwards and upwards :) She needs time to find herself as do I.

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