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  • Jul 17, 2007, 05:33 PM
    autorelow
    Wife had another mans child, but we got back together
    Ive been with my wife for about seven years off and on. Well the last time we were apart she had a baby by another guy she dated years ago. We are a young couple seen we got back she says she don't want to have sex with me because she feels nothing ( not the size for sure) but I don't understand she won't ever play with toys for me. I'm filing for her papers and only thing comes to mind is she got back with me so she can get her papers because I was going to move on with my life. Should a 26 year hand some guy who's in good sharp be batter with this . Help me please your answer is what I'm goiong to use. P.S. I get girls any where I go and they really like me
  • Jul 18, 2007, 06:16 AM
    anb0517
    If she isn't interested then what else is there? Give her what she wants and move on with your life. There is no reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship, especially if she is verbally telling you that she will not have sex with you because she "feels nothing!" What is that about?
  • Jul 19, 2007, 12:54 PM
    victoria_mitchell
    My opinion. Tone it Down I understand you are trying to be confindent in yourself but there are a few things wrong with the way you are doing it...

    ONE: There is a difference between confident and cocky and you are on the wrong side of that line in my opinion
    TWO: When you say things about your size and how you get girls so easily it seems like you are trying to conpinsate for something you don't have
    THREE: If I was single and looking and saw this post I would be not only Uninterested but I would be quite turned off

    I would say that there is obviously a problem in this relationship but MAYBE just MAYBE you're the problem and not her. I would get this divorce over with. And my prayers go out to your wife
  • Jul 19, 2007, 11:06 PM
    talaniman
    All the arrogant BS aside, you both have been through a trauma, and need extensive counseling, but your way to selfish to see that, so a divorce may be her best shot at healing. Your sick too, but don't know it, so please get help for yourself, after you set her free.
  • Jul 22, 2007, 01:57 AM
    life_is_a_song
    I think this is more of an adhocism in this situation- perhaps a desire to exit as soon as the situation doesn't go a manner that pleases you. In such a tentative manner it is unlikely anything can go anywhere. But since she seems to have made up her mind- I would let her be. Why cling on to someone who has decided things already. If she were in a mood for soul-searching and revisiting the whole thing... a counsellor or analyst would help. But the mood is a flight reaction. So the most honorable thing for you is to relent now.
    And don't worry. Possibly the issue is not you-coz she's already had a baby with another. Don't take it as a rejection of you, simply bcoz she chooses another. And there is no need to brag about yourself also. When you enter into marriage with love, try leaving also with some dignity. I have done it enuf number of times to know what I am saying. And each time I left, I left with my own and the other's honor well in place. Hey this ain't a sermon. Sharing my two penny bit. Patience now on the road ahead

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