Hello everyone,

I've just come across this forum while searching for any advice I could possibly find!

Here is my situation

My ex and I have been dating for 2 months everything was all right while she was in school but the minute she got home everything started to change. Her mom been getting in her face about stuff and she is under a lot of pressure. The main issue she that she has with me is that when I get mad I tend to bottle things up and not say anything so this past after we had a talk I decided that I was going to be more open about my feelings. So she did something that pissed me off that same day but I didn't say anything because my little brother was there and I didn't not went to create a seen then.

So after going home I did not call or text her immediately because my cell was dead and I had to find my charger. By the time I found my charger the next day she was already at work so I could not call her.

I decided I was going to wait for her to get off work to give her a piece off my mind because on top of that she is on her period.

But she called me 2 hours before she got off work we had a quick talk, but 5min after our talk I receive a text saying: "I can't believe you not even a txt? Well I guess i saw it coming, knew you were mad but as usual did not say anything. I guess I will be the one to say it. we need to take a break. I need to work on me for a min."

You ask me that is some BS she needs to make up her mind first she went me to get mad and when I do this is what happens, anyway I sent her another text explain exactly why I didn't text her and that I was going to call after she got work.

She sent another text saying: " There's really nothing to talk about. It's not like we won't still be going out, we are just taking a break from each other."

Now this is were I need help in figuring this out. If she wants a break then fine with me but my only issue should I try and text or call to know exactly what are the terms of this break?

Was actually going to call her today and just tell her that it's over between us think she needs to learn to appreciate what she had?

Here's what I think. She needs some time to think and breathe. Of course you can call her and ask her the terms of your break...it does involve you doesn't it? And if you start to think that you should be without her and move on, then do so. But the point of a break is to think. So think... don't do anything and think. Think long and hard about what you're gonna be missing if you breakup with her. Think about what's best for you. Just give it a bit of time.:) Best Wishes<3

I like the above answer...
Plus, it kind of sounds like she was searching for a reason
To take a break.
Sometimes people feel guilty or just don't want to take the blame about wanting a break.
Instead of just coming out and saying they want a break/break up,
It's easier on them to make the other person feel like they've done something wrong in order to receive the break/break up that they want.
Know what I mean...
I don't feel you did anything wrong, plus you explained yourself to her.
I would contact her about the means of the break because it does concern you.
Good luck.

The other two answers are good. You have every right to want to know the terms of the break.

Alternatively you could just let her be and go on living your life. Don't sit around waiting for her phone call to tell you the break is over. Get out with your buddies and have a good time. She has asked for a break so she should have no problem at all if you choose to give it to her and leave her alone.

You've only been together 2 months so I wouldn't let it get to you too much. You may be smothering one another this ealry on and it might be the best for you both to take a breather. In any event I would just let her be and go on living your other life. She will come back if you guys were good together, if not then it wasn't worth it anyway and you should be glad you only invested 2 months of your time on her.

Good luck!

She asked for a BREAK so give her exactly that! Disappear do not take calls. Do absolutely nothing... Do what she wants a break.. Give it to her she will be back...

To be very honest, you are in a situation where I was once. I think you must give her a break and think about things-think what is correct, what you must do keeping in mind you guys broke up earlier, according to me you are a better person in the relationship because you mostly do not say of things, girls often say they want their bfs to speak freely but when we do they just get real mad at us. I think what you decided is correct. She really needs to learn to appreciate what she had! But still take some time and think with a cool mind. I wish you all the best anyway and hope this answer helps.

After a couple of months, you're just getting to know each other, and if she wants a break then give it to her, and go back to what you were doing before she came into your life. Not every relationship is meant to click, or be forever.

The best thing is to let her miss you... You know the saying, "if you love someone, let them go, if they return they are yours, if not..." Good luck my friend... Nothing you can really do... If you let her miss you and you show that you respect her wishes then you are the better person. Regardless if she wants you or doesn't (which she will decide no matter what you do) at least she will not be able to talk bad of you or make fun of you or think any bad of you... It's the only win situation that can come out of this. I wish you the best and how about you pray to God about it?

I understand actually got a text from her. 2 days after I tried to reach her to get the terms of the break. But basically this is what she had to say" hi, just because we are on a break that does not mean we can't say hi to each other right?". I mean usually when you say you need a break doesn't that imply not talking.
Then she send me another text saying that she guess she was wrong.
Should I take this opportunity to find out what are terms of the break or just let her simmer a bit?

Take the opportunity. And just because you're taking a break doesn't mean you cannot have the occasional hi... but you also can't be calling every day or anything. Just that if you happen to see each other on the street you say hello (or so it went with my breaks). But every break varies upon the people. Ask... don't assume. Ask her.:)

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Should I take this opportunity to find out what are terms of the break or just let her simmer a bit?

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I honestly don't think she is simmering. She does want you in the friends zone, and if you cannot be a friend, and want more from her, then you should leave her alone and get to a place you can accept she is not yours, and be able to move on. You are more emotionally invested than she is, and she has already moved beyond this relationship.

Yeah it sounds like friends zone to me... but I think if you give her all the time in the world to breathe then she'll come back most likely because you sound like a nice guy. She's bound to run into a jerk and realize how good she had it with you