Messy break up, house 50/50.what to do?
First time poster, please no flaming. Long story shortened significantly...
I had a great relationship with my ex of 7 years. We bought a house together and I freaked out. I became insecure that my life, my youth, was forever gone - and that I would be committed to one woman forever. I got scared and cheated on her for almost a year. I was confused and stupid. I accept all responsibility for this deplorable action, and I am full of regret and remorse - so please hold off judging me.
My question is:
We share a house 50/50 that I no longer reside in. I am relocated to a different state to live with my parents. I lost my job because of this mess too. My ex has expressed that she is barely making mortgage payments now. I told her I would help her out once I got back on my feet finacially. I have accepted an offer and it's only time before I get back on my feet, but now I am having second thoughts as to paying her $$ for one of two reasons:
1) She has not really initiated or steered any conversation toward the house. Maybe she is waiting for ME to do it because she isn't strong enough? She is not ready to make a decision about "us", but she also does not want to talk about the house either?? I'm in limbo.
2) She is going out on dates. Why should I pay her $$ if she is out messing around? I know I cheated but, if this is what she wants... then I understand - I deserve nothing, but lets be adult and figure out the house situation before more time and $$$ are wasted.