OK I am 18 an before I was, my dad an I use to get on GREAT I told him everything I mean everything from sex to plain dumb conversations, I felt like he was the only one who really understood me an I was happy for that because most girls an their dads don't get along, anyway since recently I more want to go out wit my frenz but he doesn't make me. He doesn't want me to go to parties or anywhere an I feel horrible because he doesn't give me any reasons I can't go. My mom says he has a hard time accepting that I'm growing up but I don't know about that... why do you think he's acting this way??

Because he is having a hard time letting go and accepting that your growing up and that you are becoming your own adult. It is very hard for some parents to accept.

Talk to your mother, and ask her to have a talk with the father and you. This may help your father understand things. Also you have to be open to the things that may go on in these "parties." Those are also another factor as to why your dad is not letting you go. Either way it is up to your parents to decide if you are mature and responsible enough for your own actions and you should be aware of that yourself.

I think it's hard for farthers to accept that their daughters are growing up, I think that they are a lot more protective of them to so don't stress about it, just sit him down and say that your growing up, understand his concern's about you at the 'parties' yet he must understand that the harder he tries to pull you in the more he is going to push you away, my mum has these 'concerns' about me when I'm out :o . Good luck

At age 18, it's kind of natural to expect that you'd have a little more freedom than in the past. However, with that your father may be worried that you're getting in over your head. To an extent his concerns are legitimate. After all, your father was 18 once and when he was he knew lots of girls who were also 18 so he does have some experience to back himself up with. It's been my own experience that, when it comes to bringing up daughters, mothers are a little more naïve than fathers when it comes to just how much freedom a young girl should have. I say that because I believe that men are more savvy than women when it comes to young girls and socialization. That may well be because the men well remember when they were coming of age. To sum it up, I'd say that "I know all about nice guys - I used to be one!" My wife and I have often had conflict over just how much freedom our teenage daughter should have. Part of that conflict resulted from my wife's naïveté as her youth, particularly her late teens and 20s, were a little more sheltered than mine. As a result, I honestly felt I was a little more wise to just how vulnerable my daughter would be if my wife and I didn't keep a handle on things. I'm not the type to say "I told you so" but I honestly believe that my wife and daughter learned some very hard lessons these past few years, including a lot of pain and heartache that could have been avoided had they been a little more willing to lean on my leadership and experience. What I'm really trying to say here is don't brush your father off. He no doubt knows what he's talking about and where he's coming from, probably more so than your mother and he only wants to protect his daughter and keep you from getting burned.

Just an afterthought here ; have you ever considered inviting your father and mother to these parties with you?

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Originally Posted by s_cianci

Just an afterthought here ; have you ever considered inviting your father and mother to these parties with you?

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Hehe is that even possible?

Your father is right he is sacred about you he saying this for you to understood he maybe this parties which you want to go its not good so your father knows that that the parties is not good he says this because he loves you this is your dad so you don't have to hate him sweety