Every time I meet a woman, find out she likes me, if she is attractive I will start to like her also. But then talking to her, and her friends I find out she has been sexually active in the past with another man. I immediately feel hurt and that someone has stabbed a rod right through my heart. I then feel as if I hate that woman when I really don't, and I have no desire to be with them anymore. Is this a normal kind of reaction or do I have a big problem. There have been many women in which this has happened to me. What should I do?

Yes that seems to be a big problem and I don't think you should be feeling that way because how could you expect any woman you meet to be a lily white virgin, that is not realistic at all.

Go to counselling and get that problem out in the open so you can deal with it because it will definitely hold you back in future relationships.

Yh u can't expect to be the first person a woman has sex with. They can be in a number of sexual relationships before yours it pretty normal. You need to deal with it and let it pass. Its part of life.

This is a thread started in 2007 messiable. I don't think the OP will be around to read your post.

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jhassie may be from a different culture, though. So who knows.

Do you have a past?

What country do you live in?

I am sure there is a way to find a girl that hasn't been with other guys like some churches the girls wait for the right guy.

I don't know if you can find someone through the Silver Ring Thing. It might be worth checking into though

He only came once. I wonder if he found that virgin he was looking for. I worked with a girl that lost her virginity at age 30 so I know there are a few out there with some standards.