I have a sister in law who has not spoken to me or my husband in two years. It all came about when she and my husband had an argument by phone. Well the problem is that we all have small children who adore one another and wish to see or at least talk to each other and my sister in law and her husband will not allow our children to see or talk maybe twice in the past two years but it is devastating my oldest son who was born 2 weeks before his cousin and has pretty much grown up with him he cries to me and asks why and I don't know what to tell him we have made every attempt to work it out with them but they have a grudge I guess. My other sister in law seems to think it is jealousy due to my husbands financial success I can't help but think this might be the case but we don't flaunt anything our children are even told to be conscious of what they are talking about as not to seem like they are flaunting our wealth to family we were so close and it just breaks my heart because I know in the end it is only hurting the kids. How do I explain to my children why their aunt won't let their cousins come to their b-day not so much as a phone call or card. How do I confront my sister in law or should I leave that to my husband?

I think that you should confront your sister in law with your husband. An argument between two people should not affect the feelings of their children. Try to make a meeting with them and discuss some way for your children to see each other, and remind her that she wouldn't have to see your husband if she doesn't want. Do it for the kids. Good luck

Not your sister, it is your husbands issue. You tell the kids the truth, that their aunt is mad at their dad and will not let them come.

And "confront"?? If she does not want to have anytthing to do with your family that is her right for any reason, even no reason.