My boyfriend and I have been together 3years.
In the bedroom, he isn't shy AT ALL with me... he is up for ANYTHING!
However... phone sex... not that he thinks it's stupid, bt he feels awkward, and doesn't really get into it, and laughs and stuff, than changes the subject.
What can I do to make him feel better and more comfterbul?
THANKS!

I never understood how men enjoy phone sex, myself. He may not likely get into it in the future either. Have you asked him directly if he wants to do it and take it seriously?

XenoSapien

I'm a man and never enjoyed phone sex... and like him in bed I'm up for almost anything my wife is willing to participate in.

So here you have at least one other open minded guy who feels its both awkward and stupid. And as I result I don't get into it.

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Originally Posted by wild_girl

My boyfriend and I have been together 3years.
In the bedroom, he isnt shy AT ALL with me...he is up for ANYTHING!
However...phone sex....not that he thinks it's stupid, bt he feels awkward, and doesnt really get into it, and laughs and stuff, than changes the subject.
What can I do to make him feel better and more comfterbul?
THANKS!

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Hi... I think he gets into mood and can't control

Men are usually visually stimulated creatures. He can't see you through the phone, so he's not really getting into it. It may be that he feels awkward because he's not getting all that aroused holding onto a receiver.

I never got why some men like phone sex. Seems completely contrary to their natures. But obviously there are enough of them out there to keep those late night "hotlines" in business. Go figure!

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Originally Posted by wild_girl

My boyfriend and I have been together 3years.
In the bedroom, he isnt shy AT ALL with me...he is up for ANYTHING!
However...phone sex....not that he thinks it's stupid, bt he feels awkward, and doesnt really get into it, and laughs and stuff, than changes the subject.
What can I do to make him feel better and more comfterbul?
THANKS!

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Maybe you should roll play in front of each other in person pretending to be on the phone make him have an orgasm. Then next time maybe the real thing won't seem so weird.

Ive tried it before and I usually can't help myself but think its just like those phone sex operaters and we all now those are always fake just like phone sex except I know the other person.Most of the time I've had girls telling me that there really playing with themselves and then I laugh it off and say that there not.But I also agree with goldiemae it is hard to get aroused by talking into a phone compared to lets say watching porn.

Why bother with phone sex? Is it not much better in person?

I bet it is because his friends in jail might look at him a little funny when they see him having phone sex in the commons area.

Hello again, wild one:

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excon

Maybe you should ask him what the problem is. If he says he's just uncomfortable, you should leave it at that. Don't try forcing it on him, it might just freak him out more and make the situation even more awkward.

I have the same problem with my boyfriend and he said he don't like it because it is to awkward. He said the most reason is the its just not the same and it makes him feel stupid and he would rather the real thing so he can be able to touch me and stuff like that. Some guys just don't like phone sex there is nothing we can do about it.

I hate phone sex! It's boring and I have only done it out of courtesy to others. I think men in general are more aroused by physical and visual stimulation. Have you noticed that women have cornered the romance novel market?

Also, he probably feels silly sitting there saying all those dirty words... I sure as heck do.

Hello.

As you have herd many Guys don't enjoy phone sex. That's a shame because I have spent many hours over the years chatting to Ladies sexually and found it very exciting and so did they. That's not to say it can take the place of being together in person but it sure can open the doors to foreplay so when you do get together the sparks fly hehehe.

Maybe if you try to make it more sexual talking (story / roleplaying) and not as much trying to have sex over the phone it will help.

If he still can't enjoy it then its his loss, think about how excited he could make you an dhow you would jump him when you see him will all the sexual excitement you have built up during the phone chats.

Have Fun
Dennis777

Maybe it's just not for him, try something else.

It can be pretty HOT.

Why he may shy away:
I've avoided it with some girls because it can also be a bit... funny.
And also a bit... more than I want to hear from her on the phone sometimes... not sure why.

Some guys just have different tastes. Especially in what turns them on. See why having phone sex bothers him so much. See if he could ever really get into it, and if not, just don't do it. Which is hard to say, because you want satisfaction even when you are not with him, right ? Lol

My gal was working abroad Long distance for a year. I loved phone sex.

I got my boy to engage into phone sex by telling him I had a naughty dream about him, and of course, like a guy, he gets interested. So, I go into detail and most of the time, he's like, "wait, I want to do this part" so he begins to tell some in his perspective... it's not literal phone sex, but it turns us both on so when we see each other next we have a hard time keeping our hands to ourselves.

Also if you have text messaging, or picture messaging, send a sexy picture of yourself while on the phone - may spark his interest a little more.