After going out with numerous men who lie to me to sleep with me, (yes, I know... I'm the idiot who put out) and finding out that quite a few of them have girlfriends that they decided not to tell me about, I find that even if I meet a guy that is nice, I cannot trust him. I am growing to despise anyone male and everything a guy says I cannot take as truth anymore... I fear these feelings will never go. At this point I see men as shifty animals that one must guard themselves against.

Some of us tell the truth and are proud of being truthful, I promise.

Maybe you should change where you go to look for men?

Im sorry that you have bad experiences but is despising all males really the answer? There are good guys out there. We do exist.

Could it be that you are attracted to a particular type of man... which isn't really the right type for you?

Maybe a relationship is not a good idea, as you might not be making good decisions on getting to know these men before bedding them. Work these issues out before getting involved with another man.

Being a lesbian is getting very accepted these days.

Am I going to hell for that? :)

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Being a lesbian is getting very accepted these days.

Am I going to hell for that? :)

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High Five! ;)

Simply say NO when they offer you a lift home or ask if you wanted just another drink.Dating is fine but that's all it can be is a simpy dinner out somewhere which when your ready to leave,leave on your own.But yes there are nice guys out there who will never cheat and would treat you like there's no other.Men that try to sleep with a women on the first date are only players and you should watch out for that long before you even consider going out on adate.

Don't you mean "simply say no"?

Yes, be a challenge, get to know the guys and work out if they're trustworthy first. If girls didn't reward guys for lying and jerkish behavior, then they wouldn't do it so often!

Yea my bad lol(slaps forhead)

My opinion is, and I'm a guy saying this, is that the major majority of men that do get noticed are usually the men that do that sort of thing. Meaning the big dominant Alpha males that approach more boldly, which from reasonable assumption is the kind that you've been going for, are the kind that cheat and lie. Not to say that there aren't alpha males who are honest but perhaps you should try to approach someone who seems more lonely -yeah yeah breaking gender roles get over it-. The less a man is used to getting his way the less likely he is to try to get more of his way. Or in other words the shy kind that sit by themselves may be a good choice if your willing to approach them instead of waiting for them to approach you.

Hope it helps

You need to stay away from men for a while. Fix your trust issues and keep trying to find the right guy. It doesn't require for you to sleep with someone for you to get to know them. Stop putting out, and they will start respecting you.