well I'm 15 and my realationship with my parents well.. suck I never tell them any thing I never spend time with them and I never really talk to them I can't tell my parents who's hot and who's not I'm more comfy talking about that stuff to my 2 best friends families
And I'm the only child and they have no reslation ship with me
If I'm being a horrible daughter or if I'm not doing anything speical so they don't talk to me about my day or what:confused: I'm sooo confused

Its not you and its not your fault so don't blame yourself... every parent is different and has their own way of loving their child and maybe your parents are just one of them... tell them how you feel and tell them about what's going on in your life

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Originally Posted by ally123

well im 15 and my realationship with my parents well..suck i never tell them any thing i never spend time with them and i never really talk to them i can't tell my parents whos hot n whos not im more comfy talking about that stuff to my 2 best friends families
and im the only child and they have no reslation ship with me
if im being a horrible daughter or if im not doing anything speical so they dont talk to me about my day or what:confused: im sooo confused

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Hey, Its not you. Just sit your parents down and tell them. Open to them all at once it works I know that for a fact. Tell your mom that there is some stuff you want to talk to her about if she don't pay attention give a cry out for help I guess or you can scream I'm pregnant to get her to walk to u

I'm sure that it's easier to speak with people your own age about "who's hot, and who's not." That's normal for a girl your age. Maybe talking with your two best friend's families is also easier. But, there are still many things that your parent's are still the best source for advice, consultation and consolation.

Families members generally do fall into some sort of routine as far as interacting with each other. They can get into a rut. So, why not surprise them! Shake things up a bit! Say, "Hey, you want to hear about my day?" "I could really use your advice." Maybe something else like, "Would you like to play a game with me?" Playing board or other types of games with family members can really lead to them opening up between each other as the atmosphere can then be filled with the spirit of having fun together.

It's okay for you to do the initiating in conversing with your parents. Like I said previously, family members can fall into a rut as far as interacting with each other.

OK so I took a risk and asked my mom if we could talk she said she was busy so maybe later well it's a week later and no talk
So I was at one of my best friends and after dinner I handed her mom my plate and said thanks mom and then I reilized I called her mom and we started sort of laughing and I said I had to go to the bathroom and I cried like a baby in their bathroom because I wanted to call my real mom , mom , like I did my friends mom if that makes sense

I know how you feel. If I was going to be killed, I wouldn't tell my mom. I would rather be dead than tell her anything. I once told her that she doesn't listen to me and if I wanted to commit suicide and I told her she wouldn't even care. Then I was like "Im gonna comit suicide", and she was like "What honey, did you say something?"... When she wants to call my name, she can't even get it right, she is like "Joe, Mike, Bob, Alex, Chris..." It may sound like I'm making this up, but she will go through a list of names in 2 seconds until she remembers mine. My dad couldn't care less if I was alive, he's just happy I'm so smart and that I make him money. Anyhow yeah its not u. Because of my parents I can't talk to adults, I stutter and I never talk unless spoken too. I can't wait till I'm 18 and I can leave the state and go live a new life. If your brave enough, keep on bugging your parents, my mom yells at me if I tell her she never listens to me.

I'm sorry, I know how you feel. Sometimes moms and dads get busy and don't stop to think. Until they wake up, embrace the relationships you have with your friends mom's, aunts, cousins, etc. Its not the same as your own mom, but you have to do something if they won't listen.

I did and that's actually what woke my mother up. She actually drove to her sister's house and I was already there, hanging out. My mom saw how close I became with my aunt... and my aunt knew all these things about me that she didn't. Mom got pretty jealous and tried to be there for me again. Plus, I'm super close with my Aunt Denise now. :)

Good luck and don't blame yourself... parents suck sometimes.

I am a Mom, and I can actually understand what you are going through.

You see, I am a college student, I am in nursing school, (LOL, my family calls it mini-medical school). It is really hard on my family, especially my kids.

When my nose isn't in a book, I am usually on the phone with my classmates trying to understand a certain subject. When my kids need or want something I would say "just a second, I'll get it in a minute."

You want to know what my 13 year old daughter did one day to wake me up? She took my cell phone... went into the bathroom... and called me. :eek: She said that she thought this was the only way she would be able to talk to me.

If that didn't open my eyes, nothing would, but it did. We have a much better relationship now.

I'm a mom that is on the other side of the problem. I get home and ask my son how his day was and the only answer I get is "good." I have to ask questions on whether he had PE, went to work experience, saw his friend, etc. He has a severe stutter and has special needs, but I can't figure out why he won't tell me more about his day.

I think its hard on both ends. I think that as we grow up it becomes harder for our parents to talk to us and for us to talk to them. I remember as a teenager I would rather die then tell my mother anything that was going on and I always felt like she was too busy for me. But I think its perception. Being in your teen years is pretty confusing and its really hard your struggling with finding yourself, you independence and figuring out who you are away from your parents expectations.

Like J9 said sometimes it just takes a wake up call. For me I started writing my mom letters, I felt it was the only way I could say something to her without fear of being judged. It allowed me to get my load out and for my mom to digest it in her own time.

ok so you guys are all talking about a wake up call its been 15 years when is it going to come?

That's what I asked myself except with14 years you should go directly to them and I want to talk now!

Woops I mean you should say I want to talk now!

She hasn't given us enough information, we don't know if her parents have been distant all her life or just as she has entered her teenage years (as I suspect)

Well as much as I can remember my parents always had to work so my older sisters took care of me but I still didn't really talk to them and when my parents got home they would always be doing something like papperwork talking on the phone to their boss etc and now its later and my sisters are moved out my parents are still always busy and I even went to my friends house for 3 days without my parents consent and when I got back it was like they didn't even know I was gone

I have exactly the same relationship with my mum, I don't live with my dad, but my mum never cares about anything I do. I try talking to her but nothing, I can't tell her anything! Not a thing. The only conversation we have is what's for tea? I'm sorry for not giving you any advice I just wanted to say your not the only one I guess but I kknow how you feel because I cn talk to my best friends mum for hours without my friend even being there... well seeyyaa :)

Well at least I know I'm not alone

Hi there
Okay, honestly the stage you're going through is not abnormal with teens. If you want to have a relationship with your parents it is up to you. Speak up and ask your mum to go shopping with you or ask her next time she goes grocery shopping if you can come along. Sit down with your dad when he's watching TV or doing soimething he enjoys. Go out and ask questions when he is fixing something... You will learn a tremendous amount from them. I'm not saying this because I'm old. I'm saying this because I'm only 16... I used to think that way too.

How are they supposed to know that you want a GREAT realationship with them if you don't tell them sure it's a parents role to step up and meet there childs/teens needs but it's also your role as a child/teen to explain to them you want a relationship. Try talking to them

I'll try to ask questions and step up then I guess

Ally

Ally be more confident in yourself.
Those I guesses are not going to make it happen
Try your hardest if you want that!!