Me and my girlfriend have a bit of a problem. When we are having sex she cums and everything but she is not sure if she has had an orgasm, when she told me this I told her you will know when you have a orgasm. She says that she has never had an orgasm not even masturbating and during sex, but that afterwards when she pees she thinks she has one.

What can I do about this? I personally think it is cause she has never had one she is nervous to have one so she fights it to have one.

I think you are totally lost as to what '' really is. Maybe she is as well. On the whole, men ejaculate during orgasm. Women most of the time do not ejaculate (if this is what you mean by your post) women lubricate and so do men.

A woman will most likely climax during sex (Orgasm), ONLY, if she has done it during masturbation-usually during good clitoral stimulation.

What you seem to be describing is your GF having some excess lubrication-normal female sexual physiological behaviour.

If I am leading you off the path i.e. you do not understand what I've written-you cam pm me for more information. I really think you two are a bit in the dark with the whole sexual intercourse situation..

Cheers

Hello.

And Orgasm are the same thing. Im not sure what your trying to say.

Dennis 777

Sorry part of the answer didn't show.

Should have been, and Orgasm are the same thing,

WoW that's strange let try cums and orgasm are the same thing

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Originally Posted by sds19

Me and my girlfriend have a bit of a problem. When we are having sex she cums and everything but she is not sure if she has had an orgasm, when she told me this I told her you will know when you have a orgasm. She says that she has never had an orgasm not even masturbating and during sex, but that afterwards when she pees she thinks she has one.

What can i do about this? I personally think it is cause she has never had one she is nervous to have one so she fights it to have one.

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And orgasm are NOT the same thing. Take it from an expert. I am a middle aged female whom also did not have orgasms until I was over 30. I lubricated heavily i.e. and I loved the feeling of sex but I did not have the awesome vaginal spasms that happen during orgasm. Also, recently I started doing Kegel exercises a lot and now when I orgasm I can control the muscles of my vagina and squirt or ejaculate much like a man only I have to make it happen. I think sex is like other activities it takes practice and a little research doesn't hurt either.