Me an my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 year in August it will be 2 years, just recently for the past 2 to 3 month we have been kind of arguing allot but still love each other. So the other day she came up and said that it upsets her and that she needs space because we are always together, like if I get out of work late what I do is go see her right away and like we'll hang out for like an hour or two and then just fall asleep together. The other thing is that me and her are going through great deal of stress at home, she is still in college and she had summer class which exausted her, then also work and on top of all that her parents are splitting apart and that upsets her the most, her parents still live in the same house but just don't talk to each other or anything and I think that's getting to her and she's stressed out because she's scared of change. Then also I have stress at home to my mother has cancer and its very bad so I am always stressed out and upset. But she is there for me and she says she loves more than anything and she has never felt like this about anybody, and that I mean the world to her, but she just needs space. She wants to see each other less because then it will make it better and we will look forward to seeing each other. But she calls me and tells me she loves but she is sorry that she is such a train reck and that we argue all the time. I do not want to lose her because I love her so much and I couldn't imagine being with out her. By the way she is 21 and I am 23. I am willing to giver her space because I lover her but I just don't want to see myself without her, every one says that we are perfect and we look so good together. I talked to her parents and told them that I am concerned about her and that she has allot on her mind.

Space is space, never a good sign. Be hesitant to give them the benefit of the doubt on why they really want it. Let her know your fine with it. There's a good chance she'll miss having someone to spend time with at night. She may be taking you for granted. Step back and see how she feels.

Means you're smothering her just a tad bit too much.
Just ease off a little, don't overdo it, but tell her you understand and That you will always be there for her to get through this and such.

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I talked to her parents and told them that I am concerned about her and that she has allot on her mind.

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Why bringing them into your business is beyond me but you have little choice but give her space to handle her issues and it sounds like it will benefit you and your own personal life also. Give her space, and leave her parents out of it. She will let you know when she is ready, but instead of waiting by a phone, get your life in order.

SPACE SPACE SPACE!!

Disappear mate and whatever you do if she starts calling don't go grabbing the phone telling her you love her!!

Listen cvarefully to what she is telling you!!

Your too much go and buy the new song by "Pink" Have you listened to it she says Go away and come angain and there will be room enough for two!!

You MUST get a bit mopre of your own life and this will make her miss you and want you more...

Do it now find something that interests you and I know your saying but I love her and she interests me but let me tell you your relationship will not work if you go ruinning over there very time after work sometimes just go home, go to the movies by yourself go to a mates place hell who cares what you do just tell yourself if I want this girl I have to be strong and not see her all the time. It takes a lot to be doing this because your body tells you I want to see heer allthe time and feel great well she's told you straight see me less and I will love you more so which is it you want.

Do you want to see her all the time for a month or see her less and hold her in your arms forever!!

You make the choice I will make it simple here it is..

You see her every day and wait for her = YOUR OUT YOU MAY KEEP HER FOR 3 MONTHS

You see her every second day for now = You may keep her forever and you know what she will love and miss you more

It sounds like both of you have a lot on your plates right now. It's probably not a bad idea for you to give each other some breathing room at this point. You don't necessarily have to stop seeing each other altogether, just cut down. For example, when you're finished working late and have a full day scheduled the next day and know that she has the same, don't go over to her place, hang out for an hour or two and fall asleep together. Go home, unwind and fall asleep in your own bed. Don't convince yourself that you need to spend every spare moment of your life being or talking with her. You're probably burning each other out and that's the major part of your problem. Take it easy and slow down for a while.

Hey.. I didn't read anyone else's comments I'm just going to say you both seem to have heaps of stress and if she wants space how is she going to handle marriage lol you need to sit down with her and tell her how you really feel... peace..