Hi,
Me and my fiancé recently decided to have a break. Things were not the same as they used tobe. Basically I went to france with 3 work colleagues for the day (2 of which were girls) she's never really forgiven me for this. I told her about a week before I was going, and she knew all the people I was going with. And I can understand if it was the other way round because I would be upset about it to.
Anyway, this situation has caused us to have a break. Sadly I have built up a lot of emotion and stress, And I'm now signed of work with depression and anxiety.
I told my g/f I love her, she could not say the same, but I used to... when we decided to have this break she said she wanted to learn to love me again and or miss me. I have moved to my brothers house. However due to some of my depression my parents have been really upset, and have contacted my g/f mum. My parents knew of our situation but my g/f mum didn't. My g/f wanted to tell her mum in her own time in her own way, but now my parents have got involved its made my g/f more upset, she wants time to her self, she doesn't want to talk to me . Im trying my hardest to stay positive I want everything to work out, I truly love her with all my heart. But everythings a mess, the g/f is upset and confused, I'm depressed and our parents are trying to sort things out for us. Any help?

My gosh, keep the parents out of it. It's none of her parents or your parents business for that matter and talk about something that would be a total turn off. You should have taken that trip, you should not be depressed, and you should give her the space she wants.

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Originally Posted by Copperhead6

My gosh, keep the parents out of it. It's none of her parents or your parents business for that matter and talk about something that would be a total turn off. You should have taken that trip, you should not be depressed, and you should give her the space she wants.

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The problem with the trip is that, she thinks the one of the girls who went is after me, I was with me male mate who also left his g/f bac home to come on the trip. It was simply a work day out.

And yes the parents are being a pain, there pushing my g/f away. And putting a lot of pressure on her. This shouldn't be the case, I made silly mistakes, I phoned her last night I shouldn't have done, but this is only because I care about her, and want to sort out our problems, but she clearly told me, she needs alone time. I'm going to respect that and leave her be, and work on myself. Hopefully we can sort things out

The Parents Are The Last People Who Should Have Been Contacted... I Did That Before Called My Boyfriends Mother To Tell On Him... I Mean It Worked But He Didn't Appreciate It... Give Her Space...

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Originally Posted by Shaunta

The Parents Are The Last People Who Should Have Been Contacted... I Did That Before Called My Boyfriends Mother To Tell On Him... I Mean It Worked But He Didnt Appreciate It... Give Her Space....

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Thank you, it's the only way I can see it happening, I will just give the space and hope x

Tell the parents nicely to stay out of your business, and give your ex all the space she needs. Never bring parents into your love life. They mean well but will screw it up for you.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Tell the parents nicely to stay out of your business, and give your ex all the space she needs. Never bring parents into your love life. They mean well but will screw it up for you.

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I know this, I'm sure my partner will to . I am finding it hard giving her space, because I'm the type of person who needs to know she's OK etc,

In always needing to know, you put undue pressure on her, and that's not giving someone space.

I realised that, it just a waiting game now I suppose

How old are you guys that you have to get the parents involved?

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Originally Posted by Inspired

How old are you guys that you have to get the parents involved?

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Both 22 , parents did this behind our backs