OK so first of all I love this site and all the great advice so here is one more question
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OK so my ex!! When we broke up we were like way close!! We were both emotionally and physically attached I mean I no this was not the road to go to still have sex with him when we broke up because of course there are still attachments!! I was his first and he was my second!! So of course there was still that love attachment! But now he is totally ignoring me! We have been broken up for about 5 months now and we used to talk like everyday! And he is my best friend like we went to each other for everything! Well his 19th birthday is coming ujp this month and I was going to throw a surprise party for him but he is not even talking to me! Like at all!! I realize that we are not together but I still love him as a friend and I do not want to lose him!! All my friends think that I should just move on but I don't no how to go about it!! He was wmotionally abusive to me while we were together and now all he does is put me down in front of people! And I hate it ! I think that he has found a new girl and I don't care I mean if she makes him happy than that is great! And he noes that I do not care but I can not stand us not talking!! I need to move on but I do not no how!! Ssomeone please help me:(

Awww... Well Its Going To Be Hard At First Only Because You Are So Use To Being Around Each Other And Talking To Each Other But You Need To Find Something To Do To Occupy Your Time... sitting At Home Or Just Doing Nothing In General Is Going To Make You Think About Him... Go Hang Out With Friends...

Ah Ha... Well What Your Going To Have To Do Is Find New Friends... So Pretty Much Its Like Your Starting All Over Again.. He Probably Might Have A Girlfriend And Can't Talk To You Because You're the "ex" I Wouldn't Want My Boyfriend Talking To His "ex".. So Maybe She Gave Him An Altimatum.. <---spelling---

Yeah he's probably trying to move on to so avoiding contact with you is what he may be trying to do.

Like, cheer, you are a nice girl. But the whole britney spears slang's got to go. Aside from that point, you guys were really close, and now he is not talking to you. He was emotionally abusive, and now all he does is put you down in front of people. You hate this. You also believe he has found a new girl. However, you still want to be his friend. Okay, up until this point I have been quoting you directly. If you want to be a friend to someone that treats you like that then be a friend and leave him alone like he wants, but remember is he being a friend to you? I think not. Your fixing to be in college, moving on will take care of itself. Just mature, learn, and get stronger.

Well, if I were you I'd just walk up to him directly and say that you don't want there to be any tension between you. If he's at all mature, he'll listen to what you have to say and you can convince him that it's okay to remain friends.

It's possible he may keep giving you the silent treatment, in which case you really should just let him wallow in his own misery. Be a strong adult, and you'll do fine.

Do not throw the party FIRST of all, SECOND why is it When girls break up they still want to be friends with the XBF like its not going to hurt if we (men,guys etc) see you with another guy or something, STOP TRYING TO BE FRIENDS(that hurts) move on. My ex-girlfriend told me jan 1st she does not want to be in a relationship with me anymore, it is now march and it is still hard. I'm just know finding another method to get her out of my head. BEING MEAN TOWARDS THEM SEEMS LIKE It's the BEST WAY TO GET OVER YO EX