Hi. Im 19 years old and I love my boyfriend with all my heart. We have been together for a year and a half and I want to move with him some day. The problem is that he want to move in together now. I go to communtiy college right now and I'm living at home with my family. So I want to stay at home for a year and then get an apartment with girlfriends for a year when I go away for college. And then move in together. Is that too much to ask. I know that were right for each other but I just don't think were ready to move intogther. He ask me to marry him everyday and he always says I can't wait to have kids with me. What is that I mean were 19 to me that isn't normal. My college education and the present is what is on my mind right now. What do I do. I don't want to break up with him but I can't keep thinking about my future with him right now.

First let me congratulate you about thinking of your education first. You are number one and you need to take care of you.

Now, you need to tell him that you are just not ready for such a big step. In the future yes, but you need to concentrate on your education first. If you do move in with him, you risk having to quit college to work to pay bills, I am sure you are aware of that.

Let him know that you love him (if indeed you do) but the timing is just not right. If he loves you, he will understand.

Tell him whαt you just told us.

Hello.

He is imature and only sees what he wants today. Your looking at the future and that's fantastic. It shows how mature you are. I want to giv eyou and your parents credit for a great job.

If he Loves you then he will wait for you if you explain it to him like you did us. If he will not wait then he wouldn't be there for you when you need him anyway.

Do what you feel is right for you and your life will follow.

Good Luck
Dennis777

I echo everybodys sentiments! You sound mature and like you have your priorities right.

I think it is obvious you both care a lot for each other but I think if you can find the strength to be honest and open with him not only will you feel a weight has been lifted but he will appreciate your honesty!

Good luck!

You are 19 and don't need any pressure from anyone. You do what you want to do for your future. If he can't handle that, then you have some hard decisions to make. You sound intelligent enough to make the right one. Don't move in with him and risk your future. If he decides to leave you because you don't want to move in with him right now, then he isn't the one anyway. Love is a two way street. You both will need to give and take a little...

Don't do anything that you feel uncomfortable with. He can't force you to do anything you don't want, so just be honest with him.

Why rush things? You have the rest of your lives to live together and have children. At 19 myself, I live with my boyfriend of four years. We have lots of bills, and a 8 month old baby, I'm glad that you decided to go to college and make something of yourself. If he truly wants to be with you, he will wait for you and support you in the things that you want to do with your life. In the future, if things don't go as planned you have a college education to fall back on, although it has been said, you just can't live on love. Again I'm so happy you chose your education you must have very proud parents.