Hi I'm 19 I wanted to clarify my age cause I don't want to feel like this all my life. So my boyfriend and I have been together now for a year and half. I have been having sex for about 4 years. I can't ever get into the mood to have sex at all. I absoulty hate it because when we do have sex I can't orgasm. However, I can have sex through oral almost every time. Even though I still get off with that I just can't get into the mood cause I know I will have to have sex and fake it the whole time. It doesn't feel good at all and I don't want to tell my boyfriend because he is really insecure. He is constantly in the mood and I am never. Please what do I do.

Did you know that a great percentage of women cannot have vaginal orgasms? Only clitoral orgasms.

True story.

You may be one of those women.

You and your boyfriend need to experiment with what feels good to you. Firstly, you need to find out on your own what feels good to you.

He has different equipment, so you have to be the teacher, you have to teach him what feels good to you.

I So Agree With J_9... I 21 And Ive Been Having Sex For Four Years Also... I Haven't Had Not One Orgasm From Intercourse... But When We Use The Sex Toys That's When I Orgasm... Purchase Some Toys And Use Them To See What Happnes..

Faking it was your first mistake... when you do that it's like telling him he's doing everything right when he isn't. If you aren't honest with yourself how can you be honest with him. #2 is you have to relax, the more you stress about it the harder it will be to have. YOU have to honestly be able to think when it comes it comes... and give him subtle hints as to just how you like it. And trust me women don't all like it exactly alike.