Although there will be people who want to trash me I will be forward with my situation. I had a one night stand with a friends husband and became pregnant from it. Even though I knew this would destroy his marriage and family, I always wanted a kid and I knew he made good money and would take care of my kid. After my son was born I was very lucky that him and his wife hired a dumb lawyer who did not tell them of the custody hearing and I was awarded full and sole custody along with child support that I knew he financially could not afford. I thought this would be enough for his wife to leave him and we could raise our son together. I have now found a man that wants to marry me but I don't want to give up the child support yet he wants to adopt my son. If I ask the father of my son to allow my future husband to adopt him does that mean the child support stops? My sons father has never seen him because I don't want my son to find out the truth on how he came into this world. I don't have to worry about the father taking me to court because he had to file for bankruptcy because he and his wife did Invitro 4 times and I am the one with his baby. Before anyone trashes me I have heard it all from the wife's family and the father's family also. I don't care how selfish I sound I just don't want to give up the child support.

I'm speechless.

Spare you the lecture? Whatever, lady.

If your fiancé adopts the child, the child support stops -- that's what you want to know, right?

I hope the father of your child sues you for full custody, child support, and damages... and wins!

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I can't add anymore... I've actually been sitting here pondering an answer since you posted, but Synnen says it all... I wish your child, and only your child the best future.

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Get real. I too hope that he sues your butt off and wins.

But, no, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

Cowboy36:
Read your own words.

" Even though I knew this would destroy his marriage and family..."

"My sons father has never seen him because I don't want my son to find out the truth on how he came into this world. I don't have to worry about the father taking me to court because he had to file for bankruptcy because he and his wife did Invitro 4 times and I am the one with his baby."

"I don't care how selfish I sound I just don't want to give up the child support."


Where you looking for a pat on the back??


Try working for a living instead of being a parasite.


You are a slap in the face to all single parents trying to raise a child / children with no spousal support.

Don't you just kind of wish the new guy would dump her as well as the bio dad sue and get full custody? The only reason I couldn't sincerely wish that is maybe, just maybe your poor son would get one decent parent of the two of you! Your evil unkindness will come back at you, I hope you know that, I just pray that the justice that is served is only that dad takes your child from you and not that you lose him some other way.

Fortunately you don't get to have your fiancé adopt him and get money from the biological father as well. Thank God there will be at least that tiny bit of justice.

This situation is FUKT UP!! You really need to get your priorities straightened out. Why are you going to hide this from your child? You know he will resent you if he finds out you've been lying to him. Trust me, He will consider this lying. I also do NOT think any higher of the man who slept with you... HE CHEATED ON HIS WIFE!! You both should be ashamed of yourselves and I can NOT believe you actually posted this horrible story on the internet. Stupid girl. I hope the "man" you're marrying knows what he's getting himself into. Hope everything works out for you sweet baby boy.

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Originally Posted by Cowboy36

Although there will be people who want to trash me I will be forward with my situation. I had a one night stand with a friends husband and became pregnant from it. Even though I knew this would destroy his marriage and family, I always wanted a kid and I knew he made good money and would take care of my kid. After my son was born I was very lucky that him and his wife hired a dumb lawyer who did not tell them of the custody hearing and I was awarded full and sole custody along with child support that I knew he financially could not afford. I thought this would be enough for his wife to leave him and we could raise our son together. I have now found a man that wants to marry me but I don't want to give up the child support yet he wants to adopt my son. If I ask the father of my son to allow my future husband to adopt him does that mean the child support stops? My sons father has never seen him because I don't want my son to find out the truth on how he came into this world. I don't have to worry about the father taking me to court because he had to file for bankruptcy because he and his wife did Invitro 4 times and I am the one with his baby. Before anyone trashes me i have heard it all from the wife's family and the father's family also. I don't care how selfish I sound I just don't want to give up the child support.

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I'm not going to be hard on you cause I really don't know your situation and what made you lie down with a person's husband, but If your child's father is a over all good man then you should not keep his child from him. No man can love another's man's child like the real father would. I suggest letting thingd die down and sit down and work out a money and visitation issues.You cannot get child support and let another man adopt your child. The father would have to sign his rights over and that would clear him of all obligation to you and the child. But you might be robbing your child of a good dad. You need to find out why you are punishing the child's father. Is it because he will not leave his wife. If that is the case it is not a good reason to let another man adopt your child. For your child's sake please go take to someone who can help you on this. You seem young with not enough skills to make this kind of move. You can't have both.