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I think I messed up

OK I called my ex girlfriend July 4th we broke up like a month and a half ago she told me don't call her until she is ready to be my friend that was in June. So I called yesterday and had small talk I said happy 4th of July she said thanks and same to you she was using one word answers when we talk about what she is doing and stuff she was shock that I called I don't know if that's a bad thing? So what I want to know is what I did was wrong by calling her? Or right because I still love the girl and want to get back with her I think I shouldn't of called but I had to for some odd reason why can't I get over her and why do I still want to be with her?
How can I love someone who broke my heart and now I feel like crying everyday because I miss her and I know that I'm the right one for her. Why doesn't she call me either?

I feel for you, I really do. You may 'know' that you are the right one for her, but she is the one who needs to FEEL it, and apparently she doesn't. There is only one thing you can do, and that is to back off and let her MISS you while you live your life like your relationship is over. Learn how to live without her (it WILL make you more attractive to her, if not others) and do NOT contact her at all! If she contacts you, be polite, but not needy. Tell her that you have decided that she is right, it is important that you don't call her until she is ready to be your friend, and you hers. Give her some time to mull it over.

Maybe, just maybe it will work out the way you want it to... but I am willing to bet my youngest child that it will DEFINITELY work out the way it should!

Good luck and hope this helps.

Hugs, Didi

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ok i called my ex girlfriend july 4th we broke up like a month and a half ago she told me don't call her until she is ready to be my friend dat was in june.

Why would you want to be friends with someone who dumped you. If she cared for you she would have not have done this.

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so i called yesterday and had small talk i said happy 4th of july she said thanx and same to you she was using one word answers when we talk about what she is doing and stuff she was shock that i called i don't know if thats a bad thing?.

Yes, By contacting her all you do is move backwards and slows down your healing process.

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so what i want to know is what i did was wrong by calling her?

Yes, Leave her alone.

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or right cauz i still love the girl and want to get back with her

Usually the person who gets dumped wants them back because you are in shock that you have been dumped. Plus missing them very much.

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i think i shouldn't of called but i had to for some odd reason

You called because you love and miss her. I did this also, but when I did this I went back to square one. Not good.

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why can't i get over her and

Come to terms that it's over, stay busy and leave her alone.

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why do i still want to be with her?

Because you miss and love her and now there is a void in your life.

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how can i love someone who broke my heart

I think you answered your own question?

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and now i feel like crying everyday because i miss her and

This is natural,hell I cried for 3 months and even a couple of weeks ago.

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i know that i'm the right one for her.

Maybe you feel this way but she doesn't.

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why doesn't she call me either?

Probably because she has moved on without you.

You are going to hurt for a while, my ex fiancé broke up with me 5 months ago does it still hurt. Yes sometimes it hurts, the reason I say sometimes because I came to terms that it is over. Once you do this and do NC you will start to heal. 2 months in I contacted her I went rite back to square one. And read post here from others who got their heart broken. Most will say includeing me stay with NC when they did this they wish they never did. If you have any questions please ask, because you came to the rite place.

I agree with SAB, you have feelings she doesn't, so its time to move on and leave her alone.