I recently found out I was a father to a newborn from a 3 week fling last summer. The mother is obviously not taking proper care of my baby girl, she has 3 social workers following her to make sure the baby is safe. Mom has no job, she is on SSI and mentally isn't there. I want to try to get full custody of my baby girl, but I don't know how to really, truly prove the mother is unfit. She did have another child 5 yrs ago, that was taken away from her by her mother due to her doing drugs and drinking which lead to her hitting the child. I know that will work against her. There are so many things I have found out about my baby's mother that it scares me. I am worried for my child's safety mainly due to the mother's ignorace. If anyone has any advice, please help! I am seeing a lawyer in 2 days. THANKS,
Distressed Father!

I am so very proud of you. I can't wait to hear what comes out of this situation. I hope it all works out the way it should. Seeing a lawyer is your first step. A big piece of advice would be, if you are on the birth certificate, you should be the first to file for full custody, (at the courthouse) that usually gets you the baby right away until the court date... That is what I have seen anyway. Good luck...

I am wondering if you know the baby is yours through a test or by word of mouth?

Yes, did a DNA test, it is at child support office, I am getting support started for my baby. Here are the reasons I want the baby taken from her mother.
I am engaged to a nurse, we are buying a home, both of us are employed. My baby's mother is on SSI, she has no job, unable to drive, had her first child taken from her for abuse and drugs as I mentioned. She will not let myself or my mother take that baby overnight because she is afraid of us stealing her, which we have told her we are not stupid, we would never do that. THe baby's mother told family members of mine that she is overwhelmed with the baby, she doesn't know how often or how much to feed her, how to make the formula correctly, wasn't using diaper rash cream and had no idea when and how to use it, had very little clothing for her, didn't know what a burp rag was, has been feeding my daughter cold bottles and wondering why she gets tummy aches. She also doesn't check the temp of the bottle, even though she says she has.. my mom was feeding my daughter (we were at her mother's appartment) and noticed she wasn't taking much from the bottle. THERE WAS NO HOLE IN THE NIPPLE! If this is the case, how was she checking the temp! She sleeps with the baby in her futon, she holds the baby in the shower with her... and the mother only baths maybe once a week I found out. There are so many things I could go on for hours. I want full custody. I know the mother can't afford a lawyer. I need to know how to get physical proof she is unfit and how to go about getting full custody! But thanks for all your help!

Ok, wow, I guess that all might be OK once if she was a first time mother but she is not so, time to get crazy. Write everything down from the day you met her, till today. Every instance you can think of every story you heard from her. (without over exaggerating of course) Everything... write it down. If you can remember exact dates the helps, if you can't then give a period so you can refer back. Sometimes that is enough to bring on an investigation, go put in for full custody right away, that will give you physical custody until the first custody trial.