I'm 20 years old. I have had a kid and lost another. I hardly ever get turned on or want sex. And when I have sex it's because he's hard and he wants it. We can go forever and never orgasm. I have been with several partners and have never orgasmed. I wonder is there something wrong with me down there?

Have you ever had an external orgasm, that is an orgasm from pleasuring yourself, or using a vibrator ? Some women have internal and external, some women have both at the same time, or one or the other. Of course then there is clitoral mutilation which only happens in arab countries and maybe over here in an underground society.

You are not being fair to yourself when you let someone else abuse your body for pleasure, and the possibilityof becoming pregnant and/or acquiring some of the worst STDs is always like so out there my friend.

But then again you could have a mental block about this. If you want to talk further send me a private message as some of the subject matter we discuss may not be suitable for this forum.

I think for sex to be really good . 1. your mind has to be in order, no abuse, drama etc... 2.no having sex just to please him. 3. no using sex for manipulation 4. any issues left over from childhood, abuse etc... needs to be dealt with. 5. being comfortable and secure in your relationship with your partner. 6. you may need to rule out any medical issues, that may pertain to sexual performance. 7. Get some books and learn what the inside of a woman looks like and how each part of the vagina plays a role in orgasm 8. You and your partner may just need to explore with your bodies to see what feels good. 9. Get plenty of rest and eat healthy, having a child takes a lot out of a person. 10. Practice,practice,practice.