Hello everyone,

It seems of late I have really been thinking a lot about my sexuality and its become quite confusing for me. So I'm hoping that a fresh perspective might help me get things in order :)

The thing is that I consider myself straight. I am attracted to men. However, whenever a man tried to get close to me I notice all of his flaws and I just find him suddenly unattractive and feel the 'flight or fight' response kick in and I just feel the need to push him away. This is why I am still a virgin and have not had a serious relationship. I desire a relationship with a man and actually long for one, but it seems like whenever I notice any flaws or characteristics I find undesirable, I suddenly loose all interest in them. Why? And whenever I do find a man that I do like and I don't find his flaws repulsive, he is taken by another woman or unavailable. My friends tell me I'm too picky, but there are some things I just cannot put up with. I don't understand what is going on with me...
This has led me to wonder if perhaps I am gay? It doesen't really make sense to me because I am not attracted to females and don't see myself settling down with one in the future...

Please, any insight would be greatly appreciated

Hello Lindsay.

Relax your not Gay... Your just not ready yet. Finding fault in every guy just means your finding a reason not to move past the point your comfortable at.

Try different types of guys, maybe your picking from the same type of Men and you need to move on to other types.

When you find Mr. Right you will have no problem letting go and enjoying your time with him.

Good Luck
Dennis777

I'd agree with the above answers!

You are not gay (and if you did fancy women-so what?) anyway, you are being careful to find the right person for your personality and understanding of who MR RIGHT is for YOU!

Cheers!

You are not gay, you are a woman, and that's what women do, find faults with men, lol, besides, no man is perfect, and if you can accept that, you may find that while there's a lot of wrong with men, there's also a lot of right, and since you would be willing to accept someone else's flaws, the other person would accept yours also, right? Not. But if you keep searching you'll find a man that has more rights than wrongs, hopefully. And since beauty is in the beholders eyes, so is perfection and imperfection.

Thanks for the replies, that makes me feel a lot better.

I think I take losing my virginity a lot more seriously than my friends and I'm in no rush to. So I guess I haven't found someone that I care about enough that I can accept their flaws.

Thanks again!

Besides, love is blind, or so they say, and it's because when you love somebody you will overlook all of this persons flaws and think that this person is a angel. Just wait and see.

If you were gay, you'd know it. Is there any reason you might fear commitment? It sounds like you are avoiding commitment. Maybe you just want to be sure to give your virginity to someone you deem worthy. I know it's hard to date someone for whom you don't feel that special something, but it might help you to just have a boyfriend (you don't have to give up your virginity, just date).

I'm just worried that I might date someone that I don't want to give my virginity too and he pressures me into it. I want to be ready, you know?

All the guys in my life that could be potential boyfriends just seem to be into sex and that's it.