OK well here it goes. About a month ago I found out I was pregnant and suddenly my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me. We had a really good sex life before this but now I feel that because he knows I'm pregnant he's not attracted to me anymore.:confused: when I ask him about it he says he's scared of hurting the baby but I've explained to him already that it wouldn't affect the baby. He swears up and down that he loves me and that he is very attracted to me. I don't know what to do. What should I think? HELP

A lot of men think they are going to hurt baby hell my friends hubby asked the midwife if it had penis shaped marks in its head.
Guess you just have to reassure him and maybe ask your specialist to clarify for him ;)

A lot of men also seem to have some psychological problem because you are now a "mother" instead of a woman... and its makes it worse that you are his child's mother... it just feels strange to them... he will most likely come around... they can't just forget about it. :)

Hello Tiff.

Your not alone many couples go through this... Take him to the doctor or clinic with you so he can be told by a doctor that its good for you to Make Love and what things to do and not do. Once he is part of the experience he will relax and be even more loving to you.

Good Luck
Dennis777

If you can... sometimes it's hard to do... get him to go with you to the dr and have him ask questions. Sometimes that helps to clarify things for the men in our life's when were with child. He's just scared is my guess. Help reassure him and try and make him as much a part of your pregnancy as you possibly can. Also expect a bit of jealousy. I know it seems weird but men do sometimes get that way... OK a lot of the time... lol

Yes, they are just big children after all... ;)

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Originally Posted by tiff16

ok well here it goes. about a month ago i found out i was pregnant and suddenly my boyfriend doesnt want to have sex with me. we had a really good sex life before this but now i feel that because he knows im pregnant hes not attracted to me anymore. when i ask him about it he says hes scared of hurting the baby but ive explained to him already that it wouldnt affect the baby. he swears up and down that he loves me and that he is very attracted to me. i dont know what to do. what should i think? hELP

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If Tiff16 means you are 16 years old there are larger issues here then having sex. Have you told your parents and his? Both of your future schooling and financial prospects. Are you getting married? If not, better get a lawyer now and get support spelled out, now!

I'm not 16 that's the day of my birthday

There are some couples who actually do not have intercourse during pregnancy.

Does not mean anything. Some people feel it can harm the baby and some people who are proned to certain medical conditions are advised not to.

Why not set up an appointment with you and your boyfriend with the doctor and find out what is okay and what is not. Maybe this will ease his mind.

Best of luck.

Joe

Ok, so you're not 16. At risk of appearing ageist, you're acting like 16 even if you're 25. Worrying about why he isn't having sex with you!! He might be the guy for you. I hope that's true, but regardless, the thoughts I expressed stand. You need to take care of yourself. If you're not careful this guy could be gone and you will be stuck for the next 22 years.

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Originally Posted by tiff16

ok well here it goes. about a month ago i found out i was pregnant and suddenly my boyfriend doesnt want to have sex with me. we had a really good sex life before this but now i feel that because he knows im pregnant hes not attracted to me anymore.:confused: when i ask him about it he says hes scared of hurting the baby but ive explained to him already that it wouldnt affect the baby. he swears up and down that he loves me and that he is very attracted to me. i dont know what to do. what should i think? hELP

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He feels the need to be with you and care for you and yalls baby, then to accidentally knock you up again. Just in a mans eyes, a man who loves his girlfriend it would feel wrong to do it again after he found out your pregnant. I think he rather support you then do you. The last thing on his mind is sex, his about to have a son and his got his whole life ahead of him.

Good luck to you and your baby.

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Originally Posted by robertbarreiro

he feels the need to be with you and care for you and yalls baby, then to accidently knock you up again. Just in a mans eyes, a man who loves his girlfriend it would feel wrong to do it again after he found out your pregnant. I think he rather support you then do you. the last thing on his mind is sex, his about to have a son and his got his whole life ahead of him.

good luck to you and your baby.

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If she just found out a month ago that she's pregnant, I don't think she has to worry about getting "knocked up" again... :)

For that Stupid *** (ramlinguy) you're a damn ****! She didn't ask for your stupid comments! She is pregnant! Not committing a crime. And her wondering why her boyfriend isn't haven't sex with her doesn't mean she doesn't care about her baby! But also her relationship! You want her to just concentrate on herself and then her boyfriend says she doesn't some men are ****ing stupid! For you *******s who are saying he doesn't want to have sex with her because she is pregnant and wouldn't want it to happen again! Uhmm why the **** do you even go on blogs! She is already pregnant! Pregnant people are horny! And its not bad for mom or that baby it actually helps when it comes time to deliver! 95% of the men's ****s are not even big enough to be concerned about hurting the baby!
-to the mommy- congrats I wish you all the best. And don't worry about him men will never get a clue..

Maybey it will change after the babies born