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  • Jul 2, 2007, 09:55 PM
    Pook_Myster
    Concerns about maturity levels in relationship
    My parnter and I have a wonderful relationship. I am studying psychology, and the more and more information I absorb, combined with the more and more living I do, the deeper I think about life. My partner however, is more concerned about making money and being comfortable than understanding anything about his emotions or the reasons that he does what he does (behaviour wise). I work with a psychic, and I thought that we were heading toward marriage, but she informs me that because my partner and I are on different maturity levels, we will not last as I will become bored with him.

    Is he normal, is this uncertaintly in me normal, should I disregard what my psychic friend sees in our future?
  • Jul 3, 2007, 12:11 AM
    templelane
    [QUOTE=Pook_Myster]My partner and I have a wonderful relationship. QUOTE]

    If is that good why abandon it now? So what if you are heading for marriage or not? You will definitely not get there either way if a seed of doubt starts to subconsciously influencing your behaviour (a self fulfilling prophecy.)

    Maybe you should try and understand why he wants to make money and be comfortable. These do not sound like immature goals to me. Money doesn't make you happy - but it sure helps. Did he have a poor upbringing or one which was financially unstable? Did he live near people much richer than himself?

    The deep thinker and the realist, sound like it could be a good partnership to me - you could compliment each other.
  • Jul 3, 2007, 05:05 PM
    Pook_Myster
    Thank you templelane for your response.

    It is great now, and I am fully supportive and believing of the self-fulfilling prophecy that you speak of, I am aware of the laws of attracting and I believe them to be true, I just seem to be having so much trouble escaping these negative thoughts.

    I do understand why he wants to make money, he uses his financial comfort level as one form of success measurement, which I don't really have a problem with... I worry that he spends too much time worrying about money and getting ahead that he doesn't consider some of the other issues in our lives - the more emotional issues... he doesn't seem to think about life in the same depth that I do. He doesn't ask why someone behaves the way they do, he just sees that behaviour and then... nothing really - no ponder as to what triggered that emotion... and I feel that this is a barrier that stops him from really knowing me as a person.

    But - you say you see merit in the combination... perhaps I should have a better look and think at that. Thank you very much for your post.

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