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  • Jun 27, 2005, 05:37 PM
    chalupa67
    Should I tell her how I feel?
    I wrote on here a while ago because my girlfriend broke up with me and now I'm getting better at moving on but I still feel like she is the girl, whenever I feel like I should pull away and totally forget about her I think about how she is perfect for me and it seems like she still likes me. I haven't called her in a month and then one day she stopped by my work to ask where the elks lodge was in my town because she was going to see a band play there. When I got home from work I called her up for the first time and she seemed kind of happy to hear from me and I was like yea I was going to go to the show and she was like Ill come right now and we can go together. So I feel like she still likes me because she was acting really jittery there like she wanted to tell me how she feels, because I think she still likes me but she just doesn't want to get involved wit a boyfriend again. I don't know if I should call her up again or not call her anymore. I really just want to tell her that we should hang out sometime so I can tell her how I feel but every time she says she is going to hang out with me she ends up calling me and telling me she can't go for some reason or another. I think she is nervous to tell me how she feels because it hurts her to see me because she loves me but she doesn't want to get involved. So should I tell her that I love her?
  • Jun 27, 2005, 09:09 PM
    Wildcat21
    No, no, no... tough lover here Pal...

    She keeps blowing you off. A woman would jump through HOOPS for you if she had a high interest level.

    I think there is another guy. Seriously. She would be with YOU if she wanted to woman. "I don't want a boyfriend" - means she doesn't want to date you.

    No chance in hell you should tell THIS girl you love her. Guys SHOULD NEVER do this for well over a YEAR in a LONG TERM relationship.

    STOP CALLING HER for at least 2 months. FIGURE OUT what pushed her away... I bet 100% you called too much, e-mail, text - woman HATE THAT. You sound VERY needy - woman hate that! If she calls you GREAT.

    You're just asking for further massive punishment. I'd move on - LEARN about attraction and what causes it.

    Go to these sites and learn about woman:

    www.askmen.com - read EVERY article on dating. Every article!

    www.doubleyourdating.com - buy the book

    www.sosuave.com - read EVERY article

    You're being WAY too much of a nice guy.
  • Jun 28, 2005, 07:57 AM
    chalupa67
    Thanks dude Ill take this advice and see how it works out
  • Jun 28, 2005, 08:26 AM
    Wildcat21
    Seriously - YOU CAN NEVER convince a woman to like you - ever. She has to have feelings for you. It's NOT logic. IF she had feelings for you she would jump through hoops to be with you.

    If you chase a woman, she will usually run.

    YOU have to be the prize... not her. I think you have this woman on a pedestal.
  • Jun 29, 2005, 02:31 PM
    mike145k
    Don't crawl
    Listen don't tell her nothing don't let her screw with your mind you're the man she is just one of thousands out there dump her and find a better woman .dont crawl you got to realize that a man who has to crawl is a loser

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