:rolleyes: :im sleeping with my best friends am I wrong if we have feelimngs for each other

I'm sorry, but I would have to say yes. If she is a true friend to you then you should be true back to her. Most women treat their best friend like a member of their family, so think about it this way, would you treat your family like that?

You and the man both need to be honest with her, she more than likely won't forgive the man, but she'd be more likely to forgive you if you're honest.

Yes, it is wrong to sleep with someone else's partner. It shows a total lack of respect for both your friend, and yourself. Besides, why would you want to sleep with ANYONE who would cheat on their partner?

Didi

Hi thanks for getting back. Actually I have honored my best friend for years more than she did for me. I have a lot of respect for their relationship. He came on to me first and I'm not trying to justify that.

He sounds like a pig to me. I would get rid of him if I were you, prevent yourself getting cheated on in the future, because it more than likely will happen. Second of all, you need to be honest with your friend if she means a lot to you. Honesty isn't just important in relationships, its important in friendships too.

Sounds to me like this might be an anger thing?? Truly though, if you respect someone's relationship you don't sleep with one of the people in it! Even if he came on to you, you reject him and don't allow yourself to be put in a situation where he can do that again.

My best friend's husband came on to me once. I pushed him away and said, "If you EVER do that again, to me, or anyone else that I hear of, I will tell "x" immediately. Here we are 25 or so years later and they are still happily married and I feel that I did the right thing. For the record, we are no longer friends, but I am so glad that it had nothing to do with me!

Didi

I am staying out of this one, just because I do not think I will have anything nice to say.

I just wanted to make a nice comment that everybody above gave excellent advice and I hope you take it and use it.

Joe

Just so you know , that happened to me when I was young and I NEVER got over it. I mean, I moved on but I never forgot how betrayed and devastated I was when I found out. She didn't even have the guts to tell me, I had to find out from her friend. You should feel bad. She is your best friend. I don't care how much you like her boyfriend, he was not yours to take. If he liked you so much , he should have broke up with her first, and given her some time before you jumped on each other. Have some self control!! Don't you think if he could do this to her, he will do it to you too? I am sorry I don't have sympathy for you I take "best friends" too seriously. I am way too loyal to understand why you did this. Yes you should tell her and she will probably not forgive you. I guess if you really cared about that you wouldn't have done it in the first place. She is going to lose BOTH her best friend and her boyfriend, it doesn't get much worse than that. YOU are supposed to be the one that has her back, that is why you are her best friend. I think you need to own up to your responsibilities and tell the truth. You have made your bed with him, now lie in it!!

Friends don't sleep or even flirt with their friends (much lest best friends) partners.

Mousy,
If you have feelings for your best friend's man, you need to get them under wraps so you don't do anything to hurt your friendship. If you value your friend, you shouldn't pursue a relationship with her boyfriend. If you think you value your friend, and still want to sleep with her man, I'd question your loyalty and definition of a friend. I've seen these situations up close and they are no good. If your friend finds out she will never trust you or the boyfriend and your relationship won't ever be the same. Find someone else. Leave that guy alone. And resist flirting with him. This situation can only cause bad feelings to surface. Believe me, giving in to that temptation will lead too much heartache.

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Originally Posted by mousy

:rolleyes: :im sleeping with my best friends am i wrong if we have feelimngs for each other

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You sound like a wonderful friend to have... NOT!!

HONESTLY I don't think she is your best friend. If she was you would have a borderline and you wouldn't DARE to step foot by her man. If he likes you back make sure you are doing the right thing. IF you honestly can't leave him alone maybe you & him need to let your friend know you guys want to take it further and if you care you will make sure she realises the situation

You're wrong, dead wrong. And by doing this you're not much of a friend, either that or you like drama.
When all is out in the open, trust me, you're NOT going to like what will happen. Things like this can remain secret for so long. I don't mean to sound condescending, but when it does happen you will have no one to blame but yourself, and you can't say anyone here didn't tell you so.