My husband and I moved into this historial apartment building last Fall. The neighbors seemed nice at first and seemed to accept us into their fold. However this seemed to change about the beginning of April 2007.
There are a lot of single women that live here, one below us and two on the other side of the building. I really am not bothered by this, however it is the one below us that started showing more of an interest in my husband. We started looking out for her dog as she had called me a lot to do, and at first I was not too comfortable with doing this. Nest came offering her Easter dinner, although she refused to come upstairs to visit, instead we were going down there, or actually my husband was not comfortable being around her.
Next came her wanting my husband to patch her bedroom wall as it was badly cracked. Now this is 150 year old building with a lot of bats around and she told me she was scared that they would get into her place and this scared her a great deal.
Nest came calling me up to see if my husband would lift a very heavy file cabinet out of her car, as her arms were hurting her and she felt she could not do that, however he was not home at the time.
Next came her introducing my husband to her friends and sister, however since he was outside at the time, she had told them all that he was her neighbor and lives right up above her, she made no mention that I being his wife and him lives up above her. And then last Tuesday I heard her sister say to her, nice guy Becky I hope this ones pans out for you, as you deserve to be happy.
The next thing she did was pay a lot of attention when we were all cooking out, and the grill is ours not the neighbors. She kept hugging on him all the time, and making comments towards him about his weight loss and how good he looked. Now mind you we have both been on a diet would over two months together. She also bats her eyes at him and pays mainly all her attention on him and whenever I made comments she just would ignore me and place it back on my husband that he was the one that thought of this or that, well it really started irking me a great deal.
The next thing she did was have me come downstairs to her place while my husband was at the store and told me she had stuff she wanted me to go through coats and things. And I went down to look, and she had rather xl large coats that are too big for me and when I had said hey this one will fit my husband, no these are ladies coats and then pulled a nice men's coat out of a bag and said this one is for your husband, well hope you don't mind and it was a coat she had just bought for him too, and when I said I wish you wouldn't and she said to me, well I am going to give it to him anyway as he deserves nice things.
Well when he came looking for me and found me at her place, she ignored me there after and batted her eyes at him and gave him the coat which he needed to decline and did not, and then she stuffed into my arms her too large of coats, the coat she gave my hubby and a used fan that she made it a point of knowing to him that it really did work and she did not need it anymore.
And she just had all her attention into him and did not bat an eyelash that I was even there. My hubby said that when I went upstairs with her junk she was all over him, hugging on him, kissing on him and making suggestions that he needed to sneak out that night when I was sleep and come see her.
All I could think was what a sick woman!
This woman also would complaint that she was in pain whenever we went for walks outside. And had to come home and go to bed as she was always in pain.
Yet when I husband was loading his truck or unloading it, she was in his face to help him lift heavy stuff in or out of his truck and her feet did not hurt her then.
Also this same day my hubby made mention of how he had seen two brand new tires at a garage sale and they were asking $150.00 for both, this woman chimed in that she had the money and would give it to him right than and there, and I said no we don't need your money.
She snarled at me even and just said and smiled at him and winked at him, it was digusting too.
Both my husband and I have asked her to pinch in for the cost of filling our propane tank on our grill, we had asked her well over a week, and all she said was remind me later and she never paid. Well she had given me $40.00 towards food for later that week, which I nipped things in the bud right after this.
I talked to my husband, who thought it was not big deal that she had given him the coat, as to him it was just a coat.
I told him that we were returning the coat back to her and he had me write a small note, telling her that the coat was a nice gesture, only he was not accepting the coat, and that he was a married man and very much in love with his wife, and then he had me return the other two coats as well, and she was not at home we slipped them into her door and left it at that.
When we came out to Bar-B-Que later that night she came unglued on me and told me she wanted the $40.00 back right away and then said we turned the monies down on her pitching on the on the coast of helping to refill the gas grill up, however we never did, if my husband had not been with me she would have torn me apart from limb to limb.
I know I am not crazy, however I am not sure how to handle this any differently other then the way we were. By the time we came back into our home we felt about 2 feet tall as she had belittled me to the point where I had felt below her and we are not below her or beneath her at all.
So what do people think here and could we have handled this any differently?
The fact that she did not care what I thought and only cared about my husband with her inapproiate gestures bothers me and also hurts me a great deal.
Her ending a friendshipo after returning three coats does not make any sense to me at all.
In fact I thought it showed she is very ill!!
So does anyone have any suggestions on this subject?

I don't know why you have put up with that women for so long. I think you handled the coat situation just fine. You and your husband should cut off all contact with her completely.
She is not a friend. It's so obvious she just wants to get your husband in bed and you out of the picture. She's a nut job.

Don't let this woman get to you tell your husband to be a man and tell this woman to **** off he has told her once he is married and loves you so if she did not get it politly the first time then use bad language to get this trailer trash slapper off your case:mad:

What does your husband say to her? Why does her entertain her and not tell her to buzz off? Why do you keep accommodating her when she repeatedly behaves this way? Are you 100% certain that there is nothing inappropriate going on between this woman and your husband? Even the stupidest woman would give up after a while of getting nothing in return for her efforts. Just my 2 cents.

I hope we get an update. But notice that she posted on June 28 and has never been back.

It would be lovely to hear what has transpired though.

I tend to lean towards Glinda's way of thinking. It was your husband's job to put her in her place. He most likely was flattered by her attention and look at the problem it has created. Some people have to be told straight up the minute they step over the bounds and she was tap dancing all over the appropriate boundaries with your husband way before the coat issue. Stay away from her - your neighbors will know her for the nut she is. Don't gossip about her and don't get near her. Just act as if she doesn't exist.

Instead of her ending the relationship, you and your husband should have ended it long ago. You don't need a friend that has the hots for your husband... why would you even want a friend like that.
That type of inconsiderate behavior is disrespectful to both you and your husband.
Don't worry about it though... you were obviously being the mature one in this situation.
She sounds like a crazy lady and after she cools off will probably be trying to suck up to the both of you again.
When she does, just tell her what's done is done and there is no need for you or your husband to waste time on a friendship that's based on one sided drama.
Your husband does not need to be her handyman anymore nor you her punching bag...
Good luck to you, I hope all works out.

I hope she comes back... I would like to know what happened as well.