If someone could please help me, I'm feeling so desperate. On 5/30/05, my fiancé (7/31/78) and I (08/08/77) broke up. We met in October of 04, and became engaged on V-Day of this year. On our first date, I felt he was the 'one'. Never in my life did I feel I a connection the way I did with him. We had so much in common and everything just felt so right. Unfortunately we did have our problems, similar to the boy who cried wolf. Every time we had an issue we would break up instead of communicating and then get back together the next day. So, during one of our fights, I broke up with him, not thinking this was the end. This was our way of taking a few steps back, but this last time, he didn't want me back. The last time I talked to him, he said he was confused and doesn't know what he wants. That was last week and now he's avoiding my calls and won't see me. I don't understand how you can love someone and then completely shut them out. He's never treated me like this before, so I'm taking this pretty bad. Looking back, our relationship was pretty volatile. It was unhealthy and perhaps this is the break we needed to get out of that bad path. I'm honestly hoping this is a lesson he's teaching me and it's not the end. But it's been almost a month and I just don't know what to do anymore. Should I give up on him, knowing deep in my heart he's the one for me? Someone, please let me know if I'm hanging on to a lost cause. If it's truly over between us, I need to find the strength to move on. Thank all of you who read this.