My wife is having a hard time with arousal after 1 child. She is 30 years old and had a c section. Now the sex is painful. She always wants oral because it really turns her on. She does orgasm easily this way and will allow me to do this 2-3 time a night. After the orgasm she can’t have sex because of the pain. We need to get her ready orally then have sex before she climaxes. She can climax 90% of the time with me inside her after this routine. Her sex drive is very low. It has been 2 years. I am average in size. She prefers me to climax before she does then the limp penis glides easier inside her and she can relax. Before child birth she easily took me inside and never complained of pain. Sex needs to be quick with her. Even with the best lubricants we have this problem. She will satisfy me in other ways. Not orally, which is kind of disappointing. I love her and enjoy sex with her. She physically does not get turned on. Does anybody have any suggestions on what to do? I have a strong sex drive and find myself satisfying myself daily. It feels awkward, but it keeps me going. I do not want another woman. Is it me? Or is it a hormone change? She is not on medication. I do not make a big deal about the low sex drive or pain. Would buying her a good vibrator help her for sex? She is 45lbs over weight and she is wondering if that is a factor. She said intercourse hurts, but she does not feel any different than any other women I have slept with. She is a large build and the doctor said she does have a smaller vagina, but not as small as most petite women. Sorry for the details. I just want to know if this is what happens when we all get older?
