So, if you are unfamiliar with my story, you can check out the link below to my original thread
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ger-96059.html.

Here is where I am at right now:


It's been a while since I have talked to my ex. But, I still find myself putting her up on this pedestal. After everything she has put me through, I still think of her as this sweet innocent girl. The girl I fell for. It makes it hard because right now, I feel naked. I feel as though I have been stripped of something? I went to the club the other noght with friends, and I find it hard to even mingle with girls on a normal level. I never had this problem before I met my ex. But for some reason, I just feel awkward. I'm not sure if I am feeling a little self conscious because of the break up, or what the deal is. Maybe it's because I have been out of the dating, getting to know them game for so long? I think right now, I feel more like I have been betrayed by a very good friend. I am losing a lot of my "In Love" feelings for her at this point. I find myself longing for her, but I catch myself. I honestly believe that I am not longing for her exactly, but I am longing for a connection that I had with her. Now, I am not saying I want the connection with her back. Simply that connection I had felt with a woman. I don't have any trouble feeling attracted to other women at this point, but I always feel as though its too soon already. I know that I am rambling, and I will leave this where it is for now. I'm sure I'll have more to say, if I can get some help on these feelings.

Why rush something like this? Give it time.

If a race horse breaks its leg, even if it REALLY wants to race again more than anything, you're not going to shove it right back on a race track and expect the horse to perform as usual. You nueture the horse and give it time to heal and mend and then SLOWLY introduce it back to the track.