Hi--i have just walked out of an abusive marriage of 15 yrs--with a daughter--am barely making ends meet--i came to another city and became friends with a couple--the man had sought me from the net--slowly I became close to his wife too--ow I feel I am in love with him--he expressed a desire to have sex with me but I declined as my husband too cheated on me and I don't want to do the same to another woman--i feel a chemistry with this man--we had some stolen moments when we kissed--etc as I have been away since 7 months with no sex and I do have needs--i feel guilty doing thi sto his wife and keep showering her with gifts--but he is unhappy in his marriage as she often speaks to me--he doesn't say so--the way he caters for his family I like because my husband left me penniless-he will never leave his family for me neither do I want him to-as I don't want to get be labeled a home wrecker-i am slowly withdrawing away from him as I don't trust myself and may land up in bed in a weak moment and feel guilty all my life--pl help me tide over this--maybe I have no one else so I look up to him for comfort--hes a woman charmer no doubt and has a roving eye--am aware of all that but he has a charisma I can't resist--i fantasize about him often and am am happy just watching him when we all go out together--they come over and I like doing things for him --am I going crazy--pl help me--i would be grateful if you would reply--thank you

Time to cut the contact, and very forcefully tell him to leave you alone. As you have said you don't want to feel guilty for the rest of your life, so its important to leave them both alone, and get a life that you enjoy without him in your life. You've made him a fantasy and any thing else would only cause you more misery and pain. He is a cheater and you already know that, so keep your distance, and do something positive with your life, like be a role model for your daughter.