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  • Jun 25, 2007, 05:50 PM
    xxstephaniescourfieldxx
    I want to end it all
    My fiancé is in prison I'm not shure how long he will get it could be up to four years I love him sooo much he is my life soul and my best friend I do truly love him but I'm not shure I can go on much longer without him I feel so alone when I'm not with him I feel like someone has cut off my right arm. I just feel like I cannot go on anymore like I've got nothing to live for if e isn't by my side.
  • Jun 25, 2007, 05:56 PM
    J_9
    We do not need another person to make us whole. If you are contemplating suicide, remember it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

    I am not being judgmental here, so bear with me...

    I read your other post, your boyfriend go caught selling X to the police... He should be in prison. I have a friend who's child died the first time taking X (the girl who sold it to her is now in prison for murder). Your boyfriend would not want a murder rap on him if that were to have happened to him, and neither would you.

    You can and you will get through this. Be strong, find your confidence in what you are good at and excel at it. If you are into drugs, get away from them, turn yourself around.

    Again, it is not another person that makes us whole, it is who we are and what we believe in.
  • Jun 25, 2007, 06:18 PM
    shygrneyzs
    I agree with J_9, when you make one person the sole purpose for your living, you have put all your eggs in one basket. In anyone's case, this is unhealthy. The dependency issues around this are serious. So serious, that professional help is needed to get the person to see just how psychologically damaging this is. You do not live for someone else, you can only live for yourself.

    Just think - if your boyfriend realized just how much you "need" him and "truly love" him, why wasn't he more careful in his dealings? Why was he out there peddling X? Think about that.

    You have got to get smarter and take better care of yourself. You have to stand on your own two feet or you are going to end up with another guy just like this one - and be in the same boat you are now.

    He does not deserve to be bailed out. You do, however, deserve to get your thoughts clear and focused on your own emotional well being. Honestly. Get some help so you can see just how unhealthy you have attached yourself to this guy.
  • Jun 25, 2007, 06:31 PM
    ordinaryguy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xxstephaniescourfieldxx
    i just feel like i cannot go on anymore like iv got nothing to live for if e isnt by my side.

    If you truly care for him, you will do yourself no harm. What would he have to live for if you were gone?
  • Jun 26, 2007, 10:27 AM
    dolly08
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xxstephaniescourfieldxx
    my fiance is in prison im not shure how long he will get it could be up to four years i love him sooo much he is my life soul and my bestfriend i do truely love him but im not shure i can go on much longer without him i feel so alone when im not with him i feel like someone has cut off my right arm. i just feel like i cannot go on anymore like iv got nothing to live for if e isnt by my side.

    Please don't end it all the lord will not forgive you for self-murder... but you can end the relationship until he gets out of prison you might find someone better than him in between that time you will never know until you try and see if there is somebody else out there for you

    May god bless you, your heart, mind, body, and soul
  • Jun 26, 2007, 10:35 AM
    dolly08
    My Brother Was In The Hospital From X Someone Slipped It In His Drink At A Party He Was Not Suppose To Make It Out Of That Hospital Room His Soul Was But Not His Body X Can Do Some Damage He Survived Don't Get Me Wrong!! (thank You Lord) But He Lost All Memory Couldn't Walk He Was Not Aware Of What Was Going On IN His Life He Didn't Know His Own Mother, Sister, Bother, Family, Friends, Etc. X Can Do A lot Of Damage Your Fiancé Could Have Took Someone's Life But Don't Let The Hurt Be On You Move On That's What Its Time To Do

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