Was with a girls but took 35 min to orgasm,with her again took 30 min to orgasm.Only takes 5 min though masturbation.I want to know if it's a burden or blessing that it takes much longer to orgasm though intercourse and if there's any ways to help speed up the process?

When you're having sex with your partner your mind is concentrating on not just your partner, but yourself as well as a fantasy usually. You are never completely in control when you are with a partner so the movements or actions may take away from your concentration to bring you to orgasm. As well as the fact that you are thinking of pleasing your partner not just yourself. Therefore orgasm will take longer. On the other hand when you masturbate your mind is locked into a fantasy that pleases you. You are in complete control of ever movement and action and it is completely about self gratification. For that reason it is naturally going to take less time to reach orgasm when you are masturbating.
If you want to reach orgasm with your partner sooner you have some choices:
*Stop masturbating because you are spoiling your penis like a 4 year old whose mother gives him dessert before dinner and therefore he doesn't appreciate or take as much interest in the real stuff.
*And/or stop having sex with your partner for weeks at a time then your penis will be so happy for the attention and he will shoot a rocket shortly after take off.
* You could both masturbate and take care of your self's rather than having sex. She probably gets off faster masturbating with out you too.
*Your last option would be to tie your girl friend up and put some duck tape over her mouth and only think of your own gratification while having sex with her. Of course she has to consent to the rope and duck tape, other wise that would be called rape and is punishable by law.

If none of those options pleases you then consider this, if it takes 30 minuets to orgasm when you are with your girlfriend then (providing she's reaching orgasm as well) that is only 15 minuets a piece.

Listen... there are a lot of guys out there who suffer being called "minute men" due to being so quick to pop. Leaving their women quite frustrated.

While skill is needed to make that 35 minutes fun, its not just being long lasting that does it, its hard to have a lot of fun in a few minutes. See my point.

Count your blessings, I'm one that's glad I don't suffer from being too quick to climax as well.

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Originally Posted by stonewilder

*Your last option would be to tie your girl friend up and put some duck tape over her mouth and only think of your own gratification while having sex with her. Of course she has to consent to the rope and duck tape, other wise that would be called rape and is punishable by law.

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You're funny! :)

I guess you mean "duct tape".

35min a long time? That's odd that's my average :-S I sometimes go for hours if I hold out

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Originally Posted by Kattalover

You're funny! :)

I guess you mean "duct tape".

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Quack! Quack! I guess I did! :o

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Originally Posted by rondom1

35min a long time? thats odd thats my average :-S I sometimes go for hours if I hold out

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Humm... Hi, How you doing.. :D

5 hours bed adventures of Superman. Just call me superman. Lol

Yes, It is a blessing to last longer.

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Originally Posted by stonewilder

humm....Hi, How you doing....? :D

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Pretty good u? Lol:cool:

That's a Blessing.
As long as the woman also feels satisfied after that long. Some women want it longer, others shorter.

:)