Ask Me Help Desk - 2 subject that need you!

1. My girlfriend is bi. And not to long ago she was bring up she wanted a threesome. Yea I know most guys would really like this, but I am different. I told her that she was the only woman for me and that there no other girl for me. She then said to me "Well of course your not going touch her. I am." At first I didn't get it until she said " look you can touch me but you can't touch her and she going touch only me and that how it going be". Well I didn't say anything about this to her later on. And she just told she going forget all about it. Should I worry about this?

2. My girlfriend has told me a lot about her past and her ex-boyfriend. And she did a lot of stuff that she now regrets. I mean I usually don't get angry or judge people, but for some odd reason I want to say very mean thing to my girlfriend and always get very angry. I hate her ex-boyfriends, because he took advantage of her being nice and stuff. Anyway he a piece of trash and my girlfriend is a lovely and beautiful person. And for some odd reason she and her ex use to be really good friends. Until I told her not to talk to him anymore And she just recently told me that she did still having feelings for him then. Well it wasn't to long ago before he pick a fight with me. And I was hanging on a thread to beating his buttocks. Until my told me to leave him alone and don't hurt him. I am wondering does my girlfriend still have feelings for him?

For the first one... of course you should be worried because whether it's a girl or boy she should only touch you. And for the 2nd one she does have feelings for him because she told you so. I think you should really have a talk with her to see how serious she is about you because it sounds like you're really serious about her.

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Originally Posted by laodemon22

1. My girlfriend is bi. And not to long ago she was bring up she wanted a threesome. Yea I know most guys would really like this, but I am different. I told her that she was the only woman for me and that there no other girl for me. She then said to me "Well of course your not going touch her. I am." At first i didnt get it until she said " look you can touch me but you can't touch her and she going touch only me and that how it going be". Well I didn't say anything about this to her later on. And she just told she going forget all about it. Should i worry about this?

2. My girlfriend has told me alot about her past and her ex-boyfriend. And she did alot of stuff that she now regrets. I mean I usually dont get angry or judge people, but for some odd reason i wanna say very mean thing to my girlfriend and always get very angry. I hate her ex-boyfriends, because he took advantage of her being nice and stuff. Anyway he a piece of trash and my girlfriend is a lovely and beautiful person. And for some odd reason she and her ex use to be really good friends. Until i told her not to talk to him anymore And she just recently told me that she did still having feelings for him then. Well it wasn't to long ago before he pick a fight with me. And I was hanging on a thread to beating his buttocks. Until my told me to leave him alone and dont hurt him. I am wondering does my girlfriend still have feelings for him?

First - I just want to say this first. My advice is straight up and I tell it just the way I see it. I know you will get different opinions and thoughts which is important. Now I will tell you my thoughts on this.

Second - About the threesome and about you not allowed to touch the other girl. If she wants a threesome, it is not just about her, or her terms. It is a joint thing. She has a control issue and I do not believe she dropped it as easy as it is, and for all you know she already slept with this other girl. You said no. No threesome. She is the one that brought it up. So that tells me a lot about her character.

Third - You say that your girlfriends ex is a piece of trash and took advantage of a nice girl.

Sorry to burst your bubble but your girlfriend is not a beautiful person, Not a nice person and as far as I can tell your girlfriend is a piece of trash. She wants to have other sexual relations besides you who is supposed to be her only one. She now admits she still has feelings for the ex, and as far as I can tell for all we know she could still be sleeping with him. Would I be personally worried about it. YES.

FOURTH - If I were you, I would stop being fooled and find somebody that is actually only committed to you and not to other people, other sexual relations. I would be running. The opposite directions. After the third person request, after her demanding you not touch her but it is okay for her to touch her. After her telling you she still has feelings for her ex. She is messed up.

Joe

The thing is that I have talk to her about it and she told she has no feelings for him, but Idk.. it hard to believe anything when my girlfriend lied to me lots n lots of time

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

First - I just want to say this first. My advice is straight up and I tell it just the way I see it. I know you will get different opinions and thoughts which is important. Now I will tell you my thoughts on this.

Second - About the threesome and about you not allowed to touch the other girl. If she wants a threesome, it is not just about her, or her terms. It is a joint thing. She has a control issue and I do not believe she dropped it as easy as it is, and for all you know she already slept with this other girl. You said no. No threesome. She is the one that brought it up. So that tells me a lot about her charactor.

Third - You say that your girlfriends ex is a piece of trash and took advantage of a nice girl.

Sorry to burst your bubble but your girlfriend is not a beautiful person, Not a nice person and as far as I can tell your girlfriend is a piece of trash. She wants to have other sexual relations besides you who is supposed to be her only one. She now admits she still has feelings for the ex, and as far as I can tell for all we know she could still be sleeping with him. Would I be personally worried about it. YES.

FOURTH - If I were you, I would stop being fooled and find somebody that is actually only commited to you and not to other people, other sexual relations. I would be running. The opposite directions. After the third person request, after her demanding you not touch her but it is okay for her to touch her. After her telling you she still has feelings for her ex. She is messed up.

Joe

I thank you for your opinion. She didn't say she did still have feeling for him. She did at one point but now she don't.

Sorry but that is a lie.

Just recently told me that she did still having feelings for him.

That is what you wrote. She still has feelings for him then all of sudden no she does not anymore. Which is it?

She still has feelings for him. That is my answer. You wanted that right?

Joe

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

Sorry but that is a lie.

just recently told me that she did still having feelings for him.

That is what you wrote. She still has feelings for him then all of sudden no she does not anymore. Which is it?

She still has feelings for him. That is my answer. You wanted that right?

Joe

OK I understand and thank you