13 year old ADHD acting very differently.lazy and disrespectful
Hello
I have 13 year old son with ADHD. He has been treated since grade 3. He is a well behaved child who usually needs reminders to keep his focus. He has always been self centered, but not in an intentionnaly cruel way.
Lately, since turning 13 he has changed completely. He is very lazy and unmotivated. His grade 7 teacher is like 'friend' and does not discipline him. He gets no homework and doesn't care about school. He literally does nothing... and causes such a stink when I try to create some work for him to do.
I am concerned because he is making bad choices. He completely disregards requests I make. He disobeys when I am not in constant sight. He was grounded and still came home late. He gad his bike taken away, and when I wasn't home, he stole his siters bike. No note when I got home, and I was madly searching for him until he showed up at 10 45 at night. So he was grounded for the weeekend and required to do extra chores.
When he left a list of one thing to do while I slept (I work night shifts)... he didn't do it. Instead he feasted on cookies and chocolate milk and went out with his friends. I took his cell phone away.
Is this teenager stuff? Is this adhd stuff? Or a combo? What do you do with a child who is not affected by his prviledges removed?