My friend and I both liked the same guy, so we decided not to fight about him, and that as along as it was one of us that goes out with him the other person would be happy. But at a party which my friend was not at, the guy came on to me and the two of us got quite close. The next day when someone asked if we were going out, the guy replied probably, but my friend ignored me all day and didn't talk to me at all. Then later that night(at another party) the guy told me that he wasn't really ready for another relationship. The problem is, I don't know if he'll ever go out with me now and I still love him so much, AND my friend is still ignoring me, despite our agreement! What do I do??

If you're friend is ignoring you for sometihng that you both agreed on she is a bad friend but of course feelings are strong, you should confy her that you are not going out with him (since you're not) and assure her that a guy shouldn't get between them, because totell you the truth this happens to so many friends and than they get back together again, if she doest value her friendship enough with you to forget the situation especially if nothings even going on than she's not a good friend anyway. And for the guy part, if he's not ready for a girlfriend than you shouldn't rush him all you can do is wait. But you can still be friends with him and eventually mabey you and him will hit it off and your friend will be over him by then. Good luck anyway.

I think that your agreement should have been outlined in the complete opposite way. Friends love each other so much and are so amazing BUT when it comes to guys there will always be jelousy in freindship paradise. What you guys should have agreed to;;;;; Not to see or get involved with this guy at all.

I think only time will help your friend. I would feel the same way if I was her.

Maybe your friend really is not your best friend if she won't talk to you.

Talk to your firend I think as far as the guy if he don't know what he wants then screw him he's not worth waiting around for and losing your friend over tell her that your not going to be with him and that you don't think you should let this guy get in the way of your friendship and that you think that both of you should go and find another guy that you guys won't be fighting over

Just give your friend some time. I have had little fights with my friends too, everyone does, but after a little while we were back to talking on the phone all night. If she continues to stay mad maybe you should just back off a little and become more like aquaintances because she might not be a true best friend. As for the guy give him time too. If he wants to go out with you he will when he's ready. And if not, well you know, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

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Originally Posted by Turqoise

my friend and i both liked the same guy, so we decided not to fight about him, and that as along as it was one of us that goes out with him the other person would be happy. But at a party which my friend was not at, the guy came on to me and the two of us got quite close. The next day when someone asked if we were going out, the guy replied probably, but my friend ignored me all day and didn't talk to me at all. Then later that night(at another party) the guy told me that he wasn't really ready for another relationship. the problem is, i don't know if he'll ever go out with me now and i still love him so much, AND my friend is still ignoring me, despite our agreement! What do i do???

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WEll that depends on if she dated him or not. Me and my sister have an agreement that if one of us dates someone,its not OK for the other to date them unless and until the other has had time to be OK with it. THere is no definite answer. Just give her time. GIrls fight all the time and are best friends the very next day

If your friend is really that jealus than she's not worth being your friend. Mayb try talking to her. And that guy isn't worth it either. If u really like him than talk to him about it.

[QUOTE=Turqoise] Then later that night(at another party) the guy told me that he wasn't really ready for another relationship.QUOTE]

Does that mean he wants you to be his friends with benefits or friends??
I don't think you really love him. You are confusing love with like. The only way to find out what's up with your friend is to talk to her. Communication is key in all relationships (even friendships) and its necessary to solve problems. Tell her how you feel.