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  • Jun 20, 2007, 06:20 PM
    totallydudical
    My friends like my boyfriend more than they like me
    All right, so it's stupid. I know it is. But what if your whole steretyped persona revolved around wanting to be the center of attention and crap like that. You know those kind of people, they're not really annoying, they just like attention, as do we all. I am one of those people, I like the attention I get for being a little obnoxious and extravagant and whatnot, it's part of who I am, right? People like me like that. But what happens when my boyfriend, the most completely normal dude who's nice, funny and adorable, and also apparently better looking than me, gets all the attention from your friends? As in, your friends like him better than they like you. This is what happens to me, and it is stupid, but he gets this amazing instant reaction of likeness. What I mean is, people like him instantly, but like, REALLY like him. And no, they don't even know him.

    So all of this affects me, my boyfriend gets literally hit on more than I do. I don't even get hit on, period. My boyfriend puts on my t-shirt and everybody tells him they love it. If I wear it, nobody notices it, nobody even mentions it. But to him, it's like something worth mentioning later on. And so on, with other stuff.


    The question is: AM I AN A**HOLE? I think I am, but I can't help it :(, seriosuly, why is it that he, so effortlessly, becomes everybody's first choice for anything and not me? Why is it that even friends we make now like him better than me, or friends I had before I met him now like him better than me? Maybe they DON'T, they just like him, but they sure claim the loooove him more to him than to me, and what has he done! He is nice and funny and all the things I am, too! So what the hell is up with this crap? I refused to believe in the whole "better looking people have more friends" deal that goes on in Teen Dramas but this is ing ridiculous.

    So, AM I AN A**HOLE?

    BTW: I'm a guy.
  • Jun 26, 2007, 07:12 PM
    phillysteakandcheese
    I don't know if you're an A-hole, but in at least this aspect of your personality you are being insecure and jealous.

    If this guy likes you, and only wants to be with you, you have no reason to be insecure. It's natural to be a little jealous in this situation, but it shouldn't be anything that you can't handle within yourself.
  • Feb 11, 2008, 05:01 AM
    jjcj06
    He's YOUR boyfriend right? He chose you, so wear that badge proudly. Everybody loves him right? Well, he loves you, so that puts you at the top of that totem pole. It sounds like you have a great guy, and you should be very excited about that. Next time you are out and everyone is fawning over him, just smile to yourself and remember that at the end of the night, he is fawning over you.
  • Aug 24, 2010, 10:31 PM
    katkat6969
    I have the same problem.. EXACT. How did it turn out?

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